I can see where that would create change. Although it happens to people, seeing an apparition is kind of rare. Maybe he has some kind of psychic abilities, as deceased people are around us quite often, but are seldom seen by people who aren't mediums. I wonder if he had dreams of her as well.
Before it happened I would have said my friend and colleague didn't have an ounce of psychic ability - or even a gram given I worked in science..... I remember the day it happened to him as clearly as anything else so vivid. I'd been out on a job and arrived back to find him excited and overwhelmed. He just came out with it that his late wife had appeared to him in my office and workroom area. It was totally out of the blue, nothing ever to indicate he had any relevant attributes. You know I'm not easily impressed, Lola, so when I tell you what I have just told you it's because it was a BIG deal. It was the start of other things but that's another story and one I've written about here in the past.
He was VERY attached to his wife who tragically died after major surgery. He was devastated by her death and his life became a maelstrom of unfortunate events including a new relationship that was a disaster with his money-grabbing partner trying to empty his home while he was at work with me! It was an unforgettable and traumatic time but it led eventually to the events I've mentioned and a whole bunch of other stuff that is related.
I sometimes look back on all the events - one especially important one I haven't mentioned here but I have detailed elsewhere - and wonder how the hell all that stuff came about and why and who was orchestrating everything. Why him? Why me? Was it all serendipity or were our friends unseen pulling countless strings, puppet-masters unseen and we were dancing to their tune?
Mostly now, though, I just see those times as part of a bizarre tapestry whose shape and form I get just occasional glimpses of. Others might disbelieve what I've said if they knew and/or dismiss it all as fanciful and fantasy. I don't care because none of what happened was relevant to them. They can believe me or not but it just doesn't matter to me.
As I remarked earlier, none of this had anything to do with NDE but the outcome was similar in many ways.