Visit from friend just after passing.

Was I dreaming or did she really visit?

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I have this friend who's wife passed away some years ago from aggressive cancer. She was a God fearing woman that loved everything and everyone. You could say that, she and I were like brother and sister. Near the end of her life she wanted to see me, but due to my work and home life I wasn't able to make it down to see her before she left this earth. I worked nights and slept days, and one day I seen her in my dreams, just standing there, smiling at me. I looked to my left and seen the "light" she was supposed to go to. I told her she needed to hurry before they closed the light and she walked over to it and walked through. By the time I realized what was happening, I also realized I was wide awake. I didn't think much of it and went back to sleep. Later that night, my friend called me to tell me she passed at around 12:10p.m. that afternoon. My "dream" happened at around 12:30p.m. earlier that day. I've been wanting to tell this to anyone willing to listen without being chastised or ridiculed. What are some of your opinions?
 

Ruby

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Excellent story, thanks! Something similar happened to me so I understand how you feel and that, although you understand about hallucinations, the power of the mind to fantasize and so on, you still believe something paranormal happened to you! I didn't not "think much of it" though, as I was very frightened and seemed to pass out where I hid under the bed covers and came to in broad daylight seemingly ten minutes later still in hiding, although it was actually about eight hours after the event. However, your experience, is actually much more evidential than mine as it happened before you had knowledge of your friend's death! This is so very special and is known as a wraith, or a crisis apparitional experience. What you want to make of it is up to you, or more likely, your psychology. Some people can readily just believe in an afterlife and that's that, and others like me turn parapsychologist enthusiast, read papers, books, attend Zoom conferences and join the Society for Psychical Research. It's very enjoyable having such a great new interest. It's a broad church, from scientists to, well, all sorts, and one thing for sure is that life is never quite the same again and death loses its doom and gloom.
 

jimrich

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I have this friend who's wife passed away some years ago from aggressive cancer. She was a God fearing woman that loved everything and everyone. You could say that, she and I were like brother and sister. Near the end of her life she wanted to see me, but due to my work and home life I wasn't able to make it down to see her before she left this earth. I worked nights and slept days, and one day I seen her in my dreams, just standing there, smiling at me. I looked to my left and seen the "light" she was supposed to go to. I told her she needed to hurry before they closed the light and she walked over to it and walked through. By the time I realized what was happening, I also realized I was wide awake. I didn't think much of it and went back to sleep. Later that night, my friend called me to tell me she passed at around 12:10p.m. that afternoon. My "dream" happened at around 12:30p.m. earlier that day. I've been wanting to tell this to anyone willing to listen without being chastised or ridiculed. What are some of your opinions?
That seems like a real "visitation" from a Disincarnate who was just showing you that she is still alive and well (smiling) over on the other side or Afterlife realm. In my opinion, Disincarnates know how to give us an image or "message" that will fit our level of understanding at that moment. She may come visit you again - or not. They can do a lot of interesting things. I'm glad for you.....
 
I have this friend who's wife passed away some years ago from aggressive cancer. She was a God fearing woman that loved everything and everyone. You could say that, she and I were like brother and sister. Near the end of her life she wanted to see me, but due to my work and home life I wasn't able to make it down to see her before she left this earth. I worked nights and slept days, and one day I seen her in my dreams, just standing there, smiling at me. I looked to my left and seen the "light" she was supposed to go to. I told her she needed to hurry before they closed the light and she walked over to it and walked through. By the time I realized what was happening, I also realized I was wide awake. I didn't think much of it and went back to sleep. Later that night, my friend called me to tell me she passed at around 12:10p.m. that afternoon. My "dream" happened at around 12:30p.m. earlier that day. I've been wanting to tell this to anyone willing to listen without being chastised or ridiculed. What are some of your opinions?
 
This is something that i have heard many times. not only heard but Experienced myself. i remember years ago i was a carer there was one elderly lady called Daisy,
she would wait for my shift to start she would shout me to take her for a walk. along the hall she smiled and said there she is.
she was speaking about her friend from the same home who passed the Evening before.
all of a sudden a bright light lit up the hallway and her friend walked through. turning around to daisy saying i will see you soon. two night later Daisy asked me to take her to bed, as i was putting her comfortable she said im leaving tonight i will always remember you,
she slipped away peacefully in her sleep
 

mac

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This is something that i have heard many times. not only heard but Experienced myself. i remember years ago i was a carer there was one elderly lady called Daisy,
she would wait for my shift to start she would shout me to take her for a walk. along the hall she smiled and said there she is.
she was speaking about her friend from the same home who passed the Evening before.
all of a sudden a bright light lit up the hallway and her friend walked through. turning around to daisy saying i will see you soon. two night later Daisy asked me to take her to bed, as i was putting her comfortable she said im leaving tonight i will always remember you,
she slipped away peacefully in her sleep

If only everyone's passing were so blessed and easy.....
 

Ruby

Significant Contributor
Amazing story. You saw the deceased lady in the hall too? It's rare to have a shared experience. And what a good death for Daisy too, just to say "I'm leaving tonight", like that! What a very satisfying job it must be to care for the elderly like this.
We passed a bookshop called "Spooks" this afternoon in Haworth village street but it was closed. Maybe just as well as I'd have been straight in there buying everything in sight.
If you have any more stories do let us read them, Blackcrow.
 
Most of the carers prefered to work with the other residents, daisy was on the EM[ Section but Daisy was classed as Elderly mentally infirm. or as some of the other carers saw it it meant elderly mentally insane.
Sure the people there had Dementia. and other problems but Daisy was no fool.
she grabbed her walker held onto my arm and walked towards her friend it was lovely to see
 

JennTSFLAD

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I have this friend who's wife passed away some years ago from aggressive cancer. She was a God fearing woman that loved everything and everyone. You could say that, she and I were like brother and sister. Near the end of her life she wanted to see me, but due to my work and home life I wasn't able to make it down to see her before she left this earth. I worked nights and slept days, and one day I seen her in my dreams, just standing there, smiling at me. I looked to my left and seen the "light" she was supposed to go to. I told her she needed to hurry before they closed the light and she walked over to it and walked through. By the time I realized what was happening, I also realized I was wide awake. I didn't think much of it and went back to sleep. Later that night, my friend called me to tell me she passed at around 12:10p.m. that afternoon. My "dream" happened at around 12:30p.m. earlier that day. I've been wanting to tell this to anyone willing to listen without being chastised or ridiculed. What are some of your opinions?
What a wonderful and comforting experience. I'm struck by the portal imagery in your dream. Were you previously aware of the symbolic "portal" that spirits use to cross over? Were you aware of the concept that a spirit can miss their opportunity to cross?
 

bluebird

Major Contributor
If there is an afterlife and if a spirit can miss its opportunity to cross into that afterlife, after which it never gets the chance again, then to me that would be proof that there is no god, or at least no decent god. However, Jenn, I don't know if you are saying that it's a one-shot kind of deal -- are you?
 

JennTSFLAD

Occasional Contributor
No, certainly not. I don't think there is consensus in terms of the process but there's no indication that it is a one shot deal. Many sources use the imagery of the portal of light and I have read in a handful of sources about spirits turning away from the crossing or refusing to cross. Symbolically it may represent "missing one's chance". I don't think spirits are ever abandoned, and have never read that they are. Guides always are described as appearing as soon as the spirit is ready to cross. I found the dream imagery surprising if the poster wasn't familiar with the concept of the portal beforehand. If I have time, I'll try to find those sources where they describe it in these terms.
 

bluebird

Major Contributor
Thanks for clarifying. I don't know if there's an afterlife, but if there is then I agree that it's not a one-shot deal to get there (if one chooses to go, that is).
 
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