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mac

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I'm going to chime in here, and tell you about my experiences with the mediums.

I think we go in at times expecting almost a verbal communication between our loved ones and the medium and so why wouldnt the medium be getting the information correct? I mean, they are in direct communication.. they should know?!

But I have discovered it doesnt work that way.. they werent in our lives, they dont know our experiences, and what it actually is, is a big game of telephone and they are trying their best to get it right.

I found that if I just let go of expectations, understand that whoever comes through comes through, and just be good with it, it seems to work better. I also think asking for clarity, for more information helps. I have had to do that, and the information became clearer.

This is just my experience.

(re the bold text) Some mediums are clairaudient - they 'hear' (not using their ears though) what their communicator is saying to them. With such mediums it's an approximation of verbal communication.

Some mediums are clairvoyant which means they see (but not with their physical eyes) the communicator and hence can offer a description of the communicator's appearance.

For me one of the least satisfactory versions of evidential mediumship is the kind where symbols and impressions are the means of communicating with the medium. Too much is open to mis-perception and mis-translation. But one has to go with what's available and finding a reputable medium of any flavor can be hard enough.

Asking for additional information is reasonable in my view, information that can be evaluated by the receiver because ONLY the receiver matters.
 

RobertaGrimes

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It's so frustrating. I get something different every time. They all pick up on how he died but then the rest varies so much. I have been told that he is in paradise, at a healing facility, and yesterday that he's earthbound. So, I really don't have a clue where he is.

Dear Milahanna, you described in another thread a very dramatic communication from him in response to your request! Based upon the evidence, this means that:

1) He has completely transitioned; he is certainly not earthbound.

2) He is not in the lower realms, either, and probably not in any kind of healing facility.

3) He is eager to communicate with you, and probably has been taking classes (yes, they do that).

So, talk to him! Ask him to send you something else, pay attention, and thank him for whatever might conceivably be a sign from him. But he is fine, and he loves you - that much you now know for sure!!
 

DenverGuy

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Roughly 7 months ago I talked to my first medium, and she really gave me some good information. I then worked with 5 others who gave me stuff that made no sense. Some didn't even charge me for it. My question was always why they just didn't stop the session. Why continue with nonsense?

Anyway, today I circled back to the first one for 30 minutes over the phone. She was close on several things - cancer, young, contacts me late at night, etc. She said that my GF couldn't talk at the end (true). But she kept insisting that she keeps trying to pull something off of my hand. I don't wear any jewelry.

Anyway, it was one of those sessions where I kind of got something I needed, but not enough to convince me. I got the 'ol "she wants you to be happy" line, which always leaves me cold. No emotional responses like: "She is so happy that you contacted a medium and she is really, really trying to reach you every night. She knows what you're going through and really misses being with you in the physical sense, but she is watching over you and wants you to know that you will eventually be with her again, no matter what happens here."

Of course that is my wish, which doesn't make it true. But the medium did say that she hears me when I talk to her. I'm going to go with that...
 

jimrich

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I'm just sitting her crying and wondering where he has gone and what's wrong with me.
I feel very bad for you and wish I could offer some kind of wisdom or help. I have had all the Readers but one bring my late wife into a Reading and that one who could not said so right up front. The only thing I can say is just keep on trying and go to other Readers. Nothing is "wrong" with you and he has not "gone" anywhere, so just keep on trying. I believe he wants to connect with you as much as you want to connect with him. good luck, jim
 

RobertaGrimes

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I feel very bad for you and wish I could offer some kind of wisdom or help. I have had all the Readers but one bring my late wife into a Reading and that one who could not said so right up front. The only thing I can say is just keep on trying and go to other Readers. Nothing is "wrong" with you and he has not "gone" anywhere, so just keep on trying. I believe he wants to connect with you as much as you want to connect with him. good luck, jim

Please be aware, too, that deep grief can be a barrier to our receiving good communications from those that we used to think were dead. Please try to get past the worst of your grief so you can be more open to making real contact.
 

Widdershins3

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I should mention that the readings I talk about here were all done when my grief had long since passed through the acute phase. Many of the mediums who've written books on their gift and how it works do say that intense grief often blocks communication and that only the departed souls who have excellent skills in communicating back to us here are able to contact us when the grief is extreme. And it's still very difficult even for them.

I'm currently reading Anne Puryear's book "Stephen Lives!" and she's a good example of someone who was in extreme grief after her son committed suicide. It obsessed her and colored every aspect of her life. She was part of a church that sounds like a Spiritualist one, but only her son's determination to communicate with her was able to (occasionally, very briefly) overcome the difficulties she was presenting and make direct contact...and that was due to a contract the 2 of them had to write books together after his death.

When she began to adjust to his loss, she saw a genuinely gifted medium and had an amazing reading. And then she learned about automatic writing and "listening" for her son's thoughts among her own, similar to Carol & Mikey's work together. I think if I ever again lose someone I love tremendously, I'll definitely look for a therapist who specializes in treating grief, hopefully one who accepts the survival of the soul after death. With expert help to heal, I have a feeling that communication will be improved.
 
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Roughly 7 months ago I talked to my first medium, and she really gave me some good information. I then worked with 5 others who gave me stuff that made no sense. Some didn't even charge me for it. My question was always why they just didn't stop the session. Why continue with nonsense?

Anyway, today I circled back to the first one for 30 minutes over the phone. She was close on several things - cancer, young, contacts me late at night, etc. She said that my GF couldn't talk at the end (true). But she kept insisting that she keeps trying to pull something off of my hand. I don't wear any jewelry.

Anyway, it was one of those sessions where I kind of got something I needed, but not enough to convince me. I got the 'ol "she wants you to be happy" line, which always leaves me cold. No emotional responses like: "She is so happy that you contacted a medium and she is really, really trying to reach you every night. She knows what you're going through and really misses being with you in the physical sense, but she is watching over you and wants you to know that you will eventually be with her again, no matter what happens here."

Of course that is my wish, which doesn't make it true. But the medium did say that she hears me when I talk to her. I'm going to go with that...

I received signs but wasn't communicating (or aware of it with him) until I started those self-guided afterlife communications. After beginning those, it opened up a line of communication that I didn't know existed. When you realize you are connecting, it's amazing yet a bit overwhelming. I had to stop for a week or so because it was so emotional for me. I know others have commented that talking outloud helps them so I do this frequently. Sending you good thoughts for whatever path you choose.
 
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I should mention that the readings I talk about here were all done when my grief had long since passed through the acute phase. Many of the mediums who've written books on their gift and how it works do say that intense grief often blocks communication and that only the departed souls who have excellent skills in communicating back to us here are able to contact us when the grief is extreme. And it's still very difficult even for them.

I'm currently reading Anne Puryear's book "Stephen Lives!" and she's a good example of someone who was in extreme grief after her son committed suicide. It obsessed her and colored every aspect of her life. She was part of a church that sounds like a Spiritualist one, but only her son's determination to communicate with her was able to (occasionally, very briefly) overcome the difficulties she was presenting and make direct contact...and that was due to a contract the 2 of them had to write books together after his death.

When she began to adjust to his loss, she saw a genuinely gifted medium and had an amazing reading. And then she learned about automatic writing and "listening" for her son's thoughts among her own, similar to Carol & Mikey's work together. I think if I ever again lose someone I love tremendously, I'll definitely look for a therapist who specializes in treating grief, hopefully one who accepts the survival of the soul after death. With expert help to heal, I have a feeling that communication will be improved.

Thank you for sharing this. Would you mind elaborating on this part for me?

"Departed souls who have excellent skills in communicating back to us here are able to contact us when the grief is extreme. And it's still very difficult even for them."

How do those with excellent communication skills get through to those in deep grief? Are they still using signs or do you mean telepathically?

I'm always torn when I read about deep grief interfering with communication during this tim. I had extremely deep grief to the point of just wanting to die yet I still received communication. I'm just trying to understand why. I asked him once during a self-guided connection and he showed me a plant with roots and said "growth". I'm uncertain exactly what that means though. Have I dove in further with him on this? Lol, no. I'm waiting for my first medium reading to ask a little more. I'm hopeful yet have realistic expectations that I may not find out.

Thank you for your time!
 

Widdershins3

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I don't know what their methods are, though a lot of mediums who've written about spirit communication in general have mentioned places in the afterlife where souls can go to get help in communicating if they can't do it by themselves. Presumably, there are people on the other side whose skill happens to be communication with us, but I suspect that how they do it would probably not mean much to most of us even if it was explained. And whether it's telepathy or signs most likely depends on the spirit's abilities. They're in a place with different laws of Nature. The ones with exceptional abilities to connect may be able to get through, but not always and not as clearly as they would if we were calmer and more open to them.

Over and over again, I've read about how our extreme grief blocks most souls there from reaching us, so strong emotion must break up the signal somehow or make us impervious to hearing it. That's my best guess, but others here may have more detailed information. Good luck with your reading! I hope you'll share anything you feel comfortable about discussing with us.
 
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Unexpected

I don't know what their methods are, though a lot of mediums who've written about spirit communication in general have mentioned places in the afterlife where souls can go to get help in communicating if they can't do it by themselves. Presumably, there are people on the other side whose skill happens to be communication with us, but I suspect that how they do it would probably not mean much to most of us even if it was explained. And whether it's telepathy or signs most likely depends on the spirit's abilities. They're in a place with different laws of Nature. The ones with exceptional abilities to connect may be able to get through, but not always and not as clearly as they would if we were calmer and more open to them.

Over and over again, I've read about how our extreme grief blocks most souls there from reaching us, so strong emotion must break up the signal somehow or make us impervious to hearing it. That's my best guess, but others here may have more detailed information. Good luck with your reading! I hope you'll share anything you feel comfortable about discussing with us.

Yes, I'm going to share my experiences. Ive started a new thread today. Once I receive a reply on that, I'll post. Might be late tonight or tomorrow though. Thanks again!
 

Amore

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I've read about how our extreme grief blocks most souls there from reaching us, so strong emotion must break up the signal somehow or make us impervious to hearing it.

I would think that extreme grief and other strong emotions come in tandem with strong wishes and expectations, which in turn cloud a person's mind, making them unable to hear, looking in the wrong direction, so to speak. Similar to when I want to show to my dog that his toy his 'over there' (pointing with my finger) and he looks at my finger instead, expecting something there.

Not sure if I explained this well, but I have may times experienced my mind clouded by emotions and wishes, and then simply nothing goes.
 

isabel mcdonald

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On another website where I'm a regular its owner had recently visited a medium in London, UK, someone reputed to be upcoming and reputable. She posted an account of her sitting and it made interesting reading, its outcome very much different from what's been related above/below. (depending on how your browser works)

I realize that doesn't help anyone in North America but it may illustrate that it's important to keep trying, and perhaps use someone recommended rather than just sticking a pin in a page. And do try to establish beforehand whether the practitioner is a psychic (medium) or a (spiritual) medium. Choose the latter for preference.
 

Zac

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I scheduled a sitting in 2 weeks with Julia Assante by phone. Her rate is currently 185/hr. She is in Germany so there is minus 7-10 hour time difference for those in the US so appointments would usually need to be in the morning. I enjoyed reading her book so am really looking forward to the sitting.
 

RobertaGrimes

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I scheduled a sitting in 2 weeks with Julia Assante by phone. Her rate is currently 185/hr. She is in Germany so there is minus 7-10 hour time difference for those in the US so appointments would usually need to be in the morning. I enjoyed reading her book so am really looking forward to the sitting.

Thank you, Zac! Perhaps I should add here by way of encouragement that because there is no space where our loved ones are, using the services of a medium in Germany or in Australia or anywhere on earth, no matter how far away from you, works as well as being in the medium's office would work.
 

ShingingLight1967

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I scheduled a sitting in 2 weeks with Julia Assante by phone. Her rate is currently 185/hr. She is in Germany so there is minus 7-10 hour time difference for those in the US so appointments would usually need to be in the morning. I enjoyed reading her book so am really looking forward to the sitting.

I enjoyed my sitting with Julia Assante. She was wonderful to speak with and was very evidential for me about my husband. I also like the way she tried to assist me in communicating with my husband on my own. I will be interested to hear what your thoughts are.
 

mac

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I enjoyed my sitting with Julia Assante. She was wonderful to speak with and was very evidential for me about my husband. I also like the way she tried to assist me in communicating with my husband on my own. I will be interested to hear what your thoughts are.
Do you intend to continue trying to communicate directly with your husband, without the help of a medium?
 

RobertaGrimes

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I enjoyed my sitting with Julia Assante. She was wonderful to speak with and was very evidential for me about my husband. I also like the way she tried to assist me in communicating with my husband on my own. I will be interested to hear what your thoughts are.

Julia is a lovely person - I'm so glad that worked for you!
 

ShingingLight1967

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Do you intend to continue trying to communicate directly with your husband, without the help of a medium?

I feel like I have lost my way lately in trying to get through to him directly. I feel like whatever connection was there in the first year after his passing has disappeared. It is probably me, you know, life getting in the way and all, dealing with everyday life matters that sap my energy. Couple that with the feeling that "he hasnt been around lately" has made me wander.

I have made a pact with myself however to start the process all over again and use Dr. Hogan and Julia's recommendations to connect personally again. I feel like I am in a different mindset, where last year was desperation to find him and make sure he is OK, confirm he goes on, confirm he is with me, now.. it has settled more into trying to develop and cultivate the new relationship.

I hope that makes sense.
 

Coogie

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I scheduled a sitting in 2 weeks with Julia Assante by phone. Her rate is currently 185/hr. She is in Germany so there is minus 7-10 hour time difference for those in the US so appointments would usually need to be in the morning. I enjoyed reading her book so am really looking forward to the sitting.
Hi Zac,
I am planning to sit for a reading by Julia, would you mind me asking how your reading went with her?
Thanks
Coogie
 

Zac

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Hi Zac,
I am planning to sit for a reading by Julia, would you mind me asking how your reading went with her?
Thanks
Coogie

Her reading was unique in comparison to the dozens of readings I've had over the past 8 years with several mediums. She came up with a lot of material that was very interesting and I felt it was a good reading though much of it could not be confirmed as I recall. I have a recording of the sitting and will listen to it again because commenting further.

I also recommend Tim Braun though he is expensive at 345 for a 50 minute sitting. I have had several readings with him over the past 8 years and have not been disappointed.

https://www.timbraunmedium.com/
 
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