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The Real Reason People Blame God

Discussion in 'Spiritual Growth & Development' started by janef, Jun 14, 2014.

  1. janef

    janef Moderator

    I found this article and thought it was worth sharing.

    In our current, ego-identified level of consciousness, most of us can hardly face our ordinary human responsibilities, let alone the ultimate responsibility of living as the Godly creatures we truly are.

    Furthermore, we don't want to face the IMPLICATIONS of how uncomfortable we REALLY ARE with our ego-driven lifestyle; how much better we actually KNOW than what our behavior suggests; how much it pains us to be selfish; and how many problems it really causes. We're attached to our self-centered ideas, desires, and ways of doing things.

    It is said, "Know the truth, and the truth will set you free." But, if the price of freedom is to give up our egotistical habits and false ideas -- which it IS -- WE DON'T WANT the truth that sets us free. We're like a man who's married to an ill-tempered wife. She's making his life a living nightmare, but he's attached to her. He's got a problem: He wants to keep his wife, but if he does, she will continue to make his life miserable. The same could be said for egotism. It causes us all kinds of problems, but we're attached to it.

    Therefore, we feel we can't AFFORD to know the truth about God. We don't want the RESPONSIBILITY of knowing. Now we're getting to the heart of the matter: we don't want to be responsible.

    God is a victim of our war against responsibility

    Isn't it obvious that, all around the world, countless people avoid personal responsibility, or minimize it? When things go wrong, we tend to point the finger of blame at everybody ELSE -- and especially at God. We may admit that human beings are responsible to a degree; but usually that means OTHER human beings, rather than, say, oneself.

    Unfortunately, when we reject personal responsibility, we also reject the truth about God. Can we be honest? Our war against responsibility is war on God, war on our fellow man. We attack those we blame with negative judgments -- "God is mean, and other people are mean" -- and we hold them hostage in our minds. For example, if I think my mate is responsible for my feelings of depression, then I resent my mate, or anxiously try to change my mate; or at least, I'll sit with folded arms, waiting for my mate to change.

    Inevitably, in our war against responsibility, God's reputation takes a beating. When bad things happen, we think that God is either wrongly doing them, or wrongly allowing them to be done. We resent God for the sorry state of the world we see. So we ask accusatory questions like these:

    Why does God let all these bad things happen?

    Why doesn't God make people do the right thing?

    Why does God allow people to suffer?

    Why won't God let me succeed at this or that?

    Why is God always testing me?

    All those questions assume that God has huge responsibility for the troubles of the world -- as well as huge responsibility for our own difficulties.

    So you see, the human penchant for blame -- that is, the desire to displace responsibility -- has a major effect on our view of God. Where the relationship to God is concerned, it is crucial to admit that negative views of God result directly from our reluctance to take responsibility for difficulties we and other humans create. As long as it exists, that pattern will always foster an unfavorable view of God. To improve our view of God we must upgrade our willingness to take responsibility.

    The world we create

    How much better EVERYTHING would be if we would start taking more responsibility! Because, if the truth be told most of the events and circumstances in our life are generated by what WE think and do.

    Granted, some of the trouble that befalls us is caused by other people, out of their will and actions, but generally the overall impact of others' actions on our lives is greatly exaggerated. Even when others say or do things that are hurtful, often we are largely responsible for HOW MUCH those things hurt us. MOST of the negative impact of others' actions results not from the actions themselves, but from the way WE interpret and respond to those actions. For example, somebody makes a thoughtless and offensive remark, and then we spend days hurting ourselves by harboring resentment. Let it go! Honestly, each of us has a MUCH larger share in the creation of our own suffering than we prefer to admit.

    The world we see is the world we are creating around ourselves. That world includes not just the lifestyle that we live, but also the people surrounding us, and the way they relate to us. One man works hard to be reliable, and has the happy experience of being trusted, while another earns distrust, and suffers THAT unpleasant experience. A reactive person evokes negative reactions in others; then there are two reactive people -- or a roomful. Conditions deteriorate instantly. Mayhem!

    Look around at what man hath wrought:

    A bar fight breaks out. Did God create it?

    A couple argues. Did God create that argument?

    A world leader decides to wage war. Did God create that war?

    Clearly, God is not creating those things -- PEOPLE are! And yet, people suffering those experiences will cry, "God, why did You make such a miserable, horrible world?" Poor God! And, poor blaming, irresponsible, disempowered humanity! If people would take responsibility, we'd create differently. Otherwise, we will continue to create the 'cruel world' in which we live.

    We seem to have a blind spot that prevents us from seeing the relationship between what we do and what "happens to" us. Could it be that we're covering our eyes with our own hands? For example: A person steals at work, gets caught and sent to jail. The thief complains, "The world is a cruel place -- it jails people." But a wise voice replies, "The world jails THIEVES. You went to jail because you were stealing. You don't do the time if you don't do the crime." If we would admit that, we could get off blame, and onto a MUCH better life.

    It's hard to admit we're creating a cruel world. Consequently, we're quick to defend against that realization, saying, "How could I have created THIS? This is NOT the world I want to see!" Wisdom would reply, "True! This is not the world you want to see; but this is the world that reflects who you are WILLING to be." If you are willing to start a fight, the next thing you know, you have a fight on your hands. If you're willing to steal, you may get caught. Since that is not a world you want to SEE, those are ways you'd better not BE.

    Dividing up the "why pie"

    "The love you take is equal to the love you make."

    "We make our bed and we lie in it."

    Those expressions remind us that we are the creators of what happens in our lives. To understand and accept that principle is to take responsibility -- which is EXACTLY what the ego wants to avoid. So, to make matters worse, we make our bed and we lie ABOUT it (that is, we deny or overlook the fact that we ourselves made it).

    As long as we keep ourselves in the dark about our own responsibility for the world we live in, we won't be motivated to create differently. People often concern themselves almost obsessively with the behavior of others, constantly asking, "Why do people do this and that; and why does God do this and that?" Rarely do people ask, "What am I doing -- and why am I doing it?" Evidently, people do want to know "why," but not if it means they have to eat their share of the "why pie" -- that is, assume their rightful share of the responsibility.

    Oftentimes, the "why pie" is humble pie; that's why so many of us show an aversion to eating it. We think we're better off NOT being responsible. But, if we give the lion's share of the responsibility to God and others, we count ourselves out of the world we see, for all practical purposes. We deny or underestimate our role in the creation of that world. So, once we get the WHY -- that is, the responsibility -- wrongly allocated, nothing makes sense any more. And, nothing works. Displaced responsibility means confusion and delusion, powerlessness and suffering.

    We would be wise to develop a taste for why pie. It's good for us -- really! Any displaced responsibility robs us of a portion of our actual power and control. And in our minds, it makes God and everybody else responsible for our well-being and happiness. Then, when we find ourselves to be miserable -- because it's impossible for God or anyone else to make us happy if we don't do our part -- we feel like victims. We complain that God victimized us, or everybody else victimized us. But the fact is, we have victimized ourselves. We've defaulted from our own, rightful, God-given responsibility.

    Friends, that's how God, among others, got in the doghouse. And until we take true responsibility, that's where they're going to stay. They have to, because we keep putting them back there, every time something goes wrong. It's up to us to let them free.

    Wake up at the wheel

    Just as spouses sit in counseling waiting for one another to change, people sit waiting for God to become less mean; or to stop allowing bad things to happen -- or to make sure more good things happen. But, in fact, we -- the people waiting for God -- hold the steering wheel. And if we are looking to God, or to others, when we should be watching the road, we steer ourselves into a ditch with our own hands.

    God can't do anything about the fact that human beings are creating so much pain. We're doing it with our own free will. We've got to wake up at the wheel. We've got to pay attention to what's really happening. We've got to see how WE'RE creating the pain we suffer. We've got to take control ... and responsibility.
  2. This is quite similar to the first sections of "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck. Actually kind of the philosophy of the 12 step programs. In both cases -- if you want things to change you must change them. If you want your problems solved, you must solve them. I substantially agree with this.

    It doesn't address the fair amount of suffering in the world, though, which is not caused by people behaving irresponsibly or cruelly or selfishly. People do not cause earthquakes or tornadoes (although one might argue we are making them worse) and even though human beings cause war, most of the victims of war have no power to prevent or stop it. Why does Nirvana have schizophrenia? Why did Carol's son have to die when he was not the cause of the accident?

    Given that these things occur randomly, one can still take responsibility for managing the problem as well as possible. But just because I manage my problems and minimize their impact doesn't mean they are all my fault, or that I can't reasonably wonder why people suffer from things they are powerless to prevent.
  3. Highlander

    Highlander Active Member

    Jane, There's a lot of truth in your post. I think sometimes people would rather take the route of simply assigning blame rather than growing up and looking in the mirror. I've done it myself even though I know it's immature and unproductive.
  4. I can attest through personal experience that the "to change the world, first change your mind" paradigm really works. It does seem to give you that little mental-emotional edge to get you through the rough spots and helps you be grateful for the smooth spots. But it's slow as molasses and does not seem to work for everyone.

    The founders of ACIM followed and practiced the workbook to the letter. After doing it twice and getting minimal results they came up with the conclusion, "Okay we've done our share, now it's time for Jesus to do His share".

    I have to agree with them. After 30 years of practicing all this metaphysical mumbo-jumbo I'm getting a little burned out. I've done my share, now it's time for 'god' to pony up.

    Unless of course what I'm experiencing is a simulation created by me. Then there is no god to blame. It's me who made the mistake of creating and experiencing this simulation of a world of duality. And I am confident that one day this simulation will end I will return Home and find my God; loving, kind, gentle, and non-judgmental. And in the mean time I'll keep practicing my metaphysical mumbo-jumbo and do my best to be loving, kind, gentle, and non-judgmental myself.

    Okay, I'll go back to my cave now...
  5. BruceAdama

    BruceAdama Established Member

    I blame God because God deserves it. God is not, and should not be immune to blame for many (not all, but many) ills of this world. It (God) created it, and one cannot create something and then wash their hands of it. You speak of responsibility... well God cannot shirk its responsibility or its accountability.

    I choose not to take on tasks in life that will give me more responsibility than I already have for a few reasons. One, it's simply easier, and I don't care for hardship or challenge. Two, I don't need the extra pressure or stress that comes with. Third, If I don't take on more responsibility, I can't fail at it.

    Why should we bend to accommodate God? Why should WE change? It seems that God (or whatever) asks a lot of us, but is unwilling to bend itself, or become flexible, or assume accountability for itself. I am fully aware of the (many) things I have done on my own that have served to mess things up in my life, and for those things, I take responsibility, for they are my fault. But I do and will continue to hold God accountable for the things which it has done to me, as well. I place blame where blame is due.
  6. mac

    mac Staff Member

  7. RobertaGrimes

    RobertaGrimes Administrator

    BINGO!! Welcome out of the cave for a moment, dear Vic, and thank you for this priceless wisdom! Dear friends, God does none of this to us. We choose these difficult lessons for our own spiritual growth, and the only way to unwind the bad things is to learn the lessons. There are no shortcuts! Once we have done our part, all of it unwinds... it is as vaporous and inconsequential as a dream....
  8. When should one expect this "unwinding" to occur, though?

    I believe that, having learned our lessons and grown spiritually and taken a positive attitude and all that will often cause these perceived problems to go away. But I think that, for example, when Nirvana learns and grows and sends out positive vibes and all that, he will still have schizophrenia. bluebird would still miss her husband. Syrian refugees will still be dislocated and homeless. With the right spiritual and mental self-discipline, we may remove some troubles. We may find other problems weigh on us less heavily. But "all of it" won't really unwind until we are back on the other side.
  9. dopier

    dopier Active Member

    Just asking...what if we simply do the best we can giving our circumstances?
  10. I'm on board with that, dopier! In fact, that's all we can do.

    My point is just that no matter how responsible we are, how positive we are, or how loving we are, some bad things are still going to happen. It seems that this is partly why we are here -- to endure difficult circumstances while still being responsible and loving and positive.

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