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The “moving on” syndrome again.

Discussion in 'Afterlife Evidence' started by Maria, Jun 9, 2018.

  1. Maria

    Maria New Member

    Monika, thank you for your beautiful and kind sentiments. Perhaps spirit resonates better with some mediums more than others it is all just such an enigma. From reading your posts I have often thought that you are very psychic. I have also considered using your method of communicating with Michael through a pendulum and letters, but I am worried that it might open a portal to some dark entity and I do not know how to apply protection beforehand or “close it” afterwards. Your analogy to childhood innocence and wonder reminded me of this quotation by the painter Picasso “It took me four years to paint like Raphael, but a lifetime to paint like a child”. Children are also very close to spirit which is why they frequently see things that adults cannot. I hope that someday maybe Peter will speak though another, and convey a spontaneous message like your experience, (fingers crossed), he might even do it through you. I will take your advice in adopting a childlike openness. I think that due to the pain of my present grief there may be a sort of cloudy aura around me that is preventing any chance of being perceptive to spirit communication. I do send loving thoughts every day to Peter, and this includes through prayer, and when I next feel extreme sadness again, I will remember your affirmation that soulmates never leave. Thank you again Monika!
  2. ravensgate

    ravensgate Regular Contributor

    Mac, every post where you mention your son's death affects me in a way others' (meaning posts from other members) do not. I sense it affected you greatly and, in a way, continues to reverberate to this day. For some unknown reason, when I read about your loss, I feel sad, yet I know next to nothing about his death, next to nothing about you, so I really cannot explain why it moves me so, but it certainly does. There is a sadness in the words you type and that I read... it really is quite odd why it hits me that way :confused:
    I hope he will be there to greet you, show you the "ropes" of what it's like adapting to the afterlife when your time on this planet comes to an end. My apologies if I crossed any line, mac.
  3. ravensgate

    ravensgate Regular Contributor

    Maria, I'm sure you know I cannot be your therapist, but feel free to contact me via pm. Sometimes, talking with perfect strangers can help! :)
  4. mac

    mac Staff Member

    You have absolutely not crossed any line, raven, but thanks for thinking about me.

    When I tell my story - something I do only when there's a context for it - I, too, feel sad. BUT that sadness is in a compartment of my life and all around it my life goes on and is full and enjoyable - and I'm thankful it is. I won't try to make things fit in respect of matters spiritual but even I can sense there may have been a reason for his death other than mischance. I'll get to find out after I kick off my clogs for the last time although unconsciously I may already know! ;)

    Our son's unexpected death greatly impacted the both of us. Thirty odd years on and I'm doing this stuff whereas my wife is less sure about the situation - even though she is the one who had had more direct evidence of his continued survival. It's odd how things can turn out so very differently but we're different individuals. And I'm his father and his mother feels things differently - so perhaps it's not odd at all. We both have a sense of his loss but I'm certain he's not lost forever 'though my wife is less sure.

    I confidently expect him to be around at my passing and at my wife's but my feeling is that I'll not need to be shown the ropes because that transition already feels familiar deep inside. Thank you again for thinking of me and about me. :)
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  5. mac

    mac Staff Member

    Thank you for your thoughts, Maria.

    It's right that some people are insensitive, some uncaring, but others say what they genuinely hope/expect may help. Of course it may not come over that way at the time. What happened for me has resulted in my not being in any of those categories or at least I hope that's the case. What I am certain about is that my way is not the only way and that my way may not be right for the majority. I wouldn't try to persuade anyone and I consider that each of us needs to look for a way that's 'right' for us individually.

    Others' experiences and approaches may help an individual find her/his own best way. It's a blessing when one of them does help but it's far from certain any of them will.
  6. Maria

    Maria New Member

    Thank you so much ravensgate, I would love to keep in touch. Can you explain how to pm you. Also, my email address is

    Email address removed from public view - better to use this website's private mailing system - mac, helper.
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  7. ravensgate

    ravensgate Regular Contributor

    Maria, if you click on my forum name (ravensgate) it should give you the option of starting a conversation with me. Click on "Start conversation" and that's it. Perhaps I'd better send you a pm first; it might make it easier, so you will just need to click "Reply" :)

    * edited to remove Maria's email address - mac
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  8. Maria

    Maria New Member

    Mac, thank you for sharing your sad story. Just always remember that your baby selected you and your wife to be his parents, but he was called back for some unknown reason. You both would have made wonderful parents who will love him forever, and he is aware of this. I often think how unjust life is, when I look at childless couples who yearned to be parents but were unable to, and all those parents who have lost their children either through natural causes, suicide, or murder. Then you hear about those evil parents who were blessed with children, but cruelly abuse them He definitely will be waiting eagerly to greet you both when you transition, and you will probably now all grown up in the spirit world. You will have so much catching up to do and all of eternity to spend together. This will compensate for the temporary separation from the baby you both loved.
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  9. bluebird

    bluebird Major Contributor

    Maria, I would caution you to remove your e-mail from this public forum, as anyone could see it and contact you. Better to send it to ravensgate in a private message, if you want her to have it.

    Maria's email address removed from view - mac
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  10. mac

    mac Staff Member

    Thanks to bluebird and ravensgate for raising the issue about not posting one's personal email address on forum pages. :)
    Last edited: Jun 11, 2018

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