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Our Coming Death...

Discussion in 'General Afterlife Discussions' started by innerperson, Feb 4, 2019.

  1. bluebird

    bluebird Regular Contributor

    lol, I made the suggestion, but I haven't followed it myself! I think it's a good idea in principle, but there are so many reasons why a person might not actually follow it....life is very busy for many people, and that alone can make one put off such things. In my case, depression keeps me from doing much of anything, including putting my affairs in order. I suppose it's good that in my case, there isn't much to actually put in order.

    One thing that's fairly simple to do, and which I've read is a good idea (and I agree), is to make a list of your passwords for all of your accounts and any websites that are important to you, and arrange for a trusted loved one to find/receive it after your death. For things like bank accounts and the like, yes, but even for websites like this one, or any others where you have online friends. That way, if you die, your loved one will be able to sign in to the various websites where you have online friends who would be upset/worried if you suddenly stopped posting, and at least be able to tell them what happened, so that there's some closure. I haven't done this yet, either, but I probably should. It's easier than actually going out and getting things done, anyway (easier than seeing a lawyer, talking to your life insurance company, etc.).
  2. mac

    mac Staff Member

    I'm 71, heading for 72 and whatever happens I'm in the approximately last quarter of my life.

    Day on day now I realise that I likely have no more than 1 to 2 decades left in this particular incarnation and maybe a whole lot less. ;) Like many folk (I'd guess) my wife and I have made wills and plans for the disposal of our remains as cheaply as possible - we're cheap folk!

    Our affairs are mostly simple although a little more complicated than some others by having 'feet' in two countries. But the odds are we'll live long enough to become old and frail in the way so many do, eventually passing away in our homeland in whatever physical ill-health we happen to be in as that happens. I hope I'll be well enough to consciously observe the situation. ;)

    I don't worry because all that is outside my control but I do think about it and there are situations I hope don't happen - I'm just an ordinary guy like so many others.
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  3. mac

    mac Staff Member

    I feel so bad, bb, that depression controls you so much. I wish I had an answer for you to stop that being the case. :(

    This is such a good idea. I do often wonder how we'd feel if a regular just stopped being here on ALF. Well, actually, I KNOW how that feels because I'm often concerned when a 'regular' disappears or their m.o. changes. It's not anything I can do much about because most of us are just usernames to one another and little bits of personalities - we mostly don't even know what we look like. Yet we 'speak' to each other regularly, know about each other to some degree, develop relationships based on what we knowof each other. And we are individuals who often care about each other.

    It's a very odd situation..... o_O
  4. innerperson

    innerperson Member

    Great idea about asking Carol and Mikey. I need to think about the question a little more before posting it.

    Hopefully I am remembering this correctly, but in Carol and Mikey's book there was a passage that talked about this. I believe Carol made a statement that Mikey needed to worry about skin cancer and Mikey said he would be gone long before anything like that happened.

    It would be interesting to hear what he thinks now that he is back home and understands what exactly was happening.

    Well, these thoughts about final preparations has been happening for a year or so. I can't say the idea this could be a sign of my impending doom hasn't crossed my mind. haha I honestly couldn't say if this is my mind playing tricks on me or if this is something to take serious.

    In any case, you and Bluebird is right in that I should just prepare now so not to worry if anything or even nothing happens in the short term. I would gladly take the smuggish feeling over the "oh no!" feeling on the way out.

    I am also pretty cheap in what I want for my final plans. No funeral, cremation and dump the ashes in a nice lovely wooded space by a big tree. Maybe I will set up a bar tab for those that want to have a final drink on me. :)
    Last edited: Feb 4, 2019
  5. innerperson

    innerperson Member

    Depression is a tough thing to live with. I endured it for a long time. I remember not even wanting to get out of bed. Just laying there in the dark feeling helpless. I didn't even know I had depression until I hit my late 30's. I always just thought it was a normal to feel that way.

    Even after finding out I suffered depression, it took me a long time to figure out how to live with it. Besides taking anti-depressants which just numbed me from all feelings. I didn't like that at all. I am thankful I was able to figure out how to manage it. I haven't really had a bad episode in 6 or so years now. Knock on wood.

    That actually crossed my mind today which is why I made my post. Thanks for posting it.

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