I don't have a very positive view of mediums in general, but I kind of like Blair Robertson's message. I did one of his free webinars last night. It was about communication, which he has a free book about. He talked about how to recognize signs, how you don't need a medium, and how they come to us at night - but not in dreams. So last night I wrote my girlfriend's name on a piece of paper, folded it twice, lit a candle, etc, hoping for a night visit. It didn't happen. I felt a little silly doing that (just a little). I understand that that it is normal to have nothing happen, but it doesn't feel good. When I lost her on June 14th of 2016, a bird's nest appeared a few days later on my front porch, with baby birds. There is no way to tell if that's a sign or not. In general, I don't know if I am missing signs or just haven't received any. I'm sure I am not alone in this. As someone else once pointed out, it's bad enough to lose someone who is everything to you, but if there is an afterlife - and I hope there is - this shouldn't be so damn hard. I am not giving up, though. Also, this forum is terrific - you guys are great.