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New here - recently widowed

Discussion in 'member introductions' started by Louise66, May 31, 2017.

  1. Louise66

    Louise66 New Member

    Hello, my name is Louise. A friend of mine, Denverguy (hi mate), recommended this forum to me. My darling husband of 30 years, Ken, passed from cancer in November 2016, and I have become very interested in Afterlife subjects. I'm not in the habit of grasping any old thing just to make myself feel better, but try to come at the search with an open mind and intellectual honesty. I want to know that my Ken is okay and we'll be together again one day. Evidence that points to this certainly makes me feel better, while I grieve daily.

    I'm looking forward to contributing and receiving at this forum :) It's great to have places to have these conversations because as we know, not everybody understands, and I dislike condescension that implies I'm just a dotty widow trying to feel better - you know, in the vein of "Oh well dearie, you believe that if it helps you." I want to develop something that is much more than that.

    Thanks for reading :)
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  2. mac

    mac senior member Staff Member

    I won't do the "Sorry about your loss." stuff. It's not that I don't care but because although it's well-meaning, so often it gets trotted out without much thought. But folk mostly don't know what else to say.

    Here, however, you're with folk who have some understanding of what happens after death, some who have experienced similar loss to yourself and Denverguy, and others who are still searching for that understanding.

    Here you won't be treated as a dotty widow and I think you'll already have realised we are discerning seekers who don't trot out just any old guff.

    I'm mac - welcome :)
  3. RobertaGrimes

    RobertaGrimes Administrator

    We are all so glad that you're here, Louise! Ask us whatever questions you like, and for a quick summary of what actually is going on and an annotated reading list you might read my book, The Fun of Dying. If you'll send me an email through the contact block on robertagrimes.com, I'll be happy to send it to you in PDF!
  4. ShingingLight1967

    ShingingLight1967 Active Member

    Hi Louise66 and welcome and I am going to say I am so sorry for your loss.

    I was brought to this site probably about 17 months ago after the sudden passing of my husband. I was desperately looking for him, wanting to know he was OK, wanting to know if he was scared, wanting to know where he was, because I could not believe one morning he would walk out of the house to go to work and that would be the last time I ever saw his smile.

    I was in the need of proof that he still lives on, even though he is not physically with me. I am still on that quest. As with you, I dont share a lot of the experiences I have had with people, because I also do not want them to look at me with that cockeyed look, saying exactly what you hear "if thats what you need to believe to get through, then go for it."

    I am searching for concrete proof that he, my Mom, Dad and everyone else that have gone before me have not just ceased to exist. I cant grasp that that would be a possibility.

    This is a safe place to ask questions, get better understanding with people who (like me) were brought here to find answers. Everyone here will help you find what you seek.

    Explore the site, read the books, explore the other sites that have suggested. There is a wealth of info.

    Once again, welcome!
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  5. jimrich

    jimrich Active Member

    Welcome Louise and may I say that I am sorry for your loss although I do not experience my late wife, who is very happy and well in the Afterlife, as a s "loss". She has been and continues to be here with me in so many ways so I have not gone through a "grieving" process like most widowers do who believe their loved one is totally gone from them. It has helped me a lot to visit several local Mediums where I live and had some wonderful and hilarious talks with my late wife, Irene, as posted elsewhere here. Other than perhaps visiting a Medium, where you live, I'd recommend reading some James Van Praagh books or google him. Of course there are many great Mediums online and elsewhere so, have a ball and get together with your husband ASAP. I bet he comes to you in your dreams. If and when you know that Ken is right there and doing just fine, you may find your self grieving less and having daily CELEBRATIONS with him as he sends you more and more "signs" of his continuing life and adventures in the Afterlife.
    Oh and I too have had to limit how much I speak about Irene and who I tell, since most (religious) folks are afraid of anything having to do with Psychics or an Afterlife and can respond in very hurtful ways.
    Sending much love & happiness for when you connect with Ken from this side to his.
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  6. mac

    mac senior member Staff Member

    I find it sad that after visiting us just the once, Louise didn't make it back. Perhaps this place, at this time, just isn't the right place.

    I wish we'd been able to help a little though.... :(
  7. RobertaGrimes

    RobertaGrimes Administrator

    Dear Mac, it may be that she read threads, found answers, and was indeed helped - that is what I prefer to believe. We can only offer help and comfort - we can't make people stay!
  8. mac

    mac senior member Staff Member

    I know, I know..... But with someone so sad it gets to me. :(
  9. RobertaGrimes

    RobertaGrimes Administrator

    That's because you're a good man, dear ;-).
  10. kim marine

    kim marine Active Member

    I lost my husband in 2000. He and I discussed death a lot, since I had experienced the NDE before we were married. I used to talk with him about how much I looked forward to leaving this earth although I was in no hurry to leave at that current time, and I am not in a hurry now either. We had a son who was 9 when my husband left the earth. We were only married for 11 3/4 years.
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  11. jimrich

    jimrich Active Member

    IMO, anything we write here can be of benefit to anybody else who surfs the site and reads what we write so you probably "helped" a lot more than you know and we have no idea how many folks surf through here to find help and encouragement. It's like dropping seeds that might sprout at some future time.
  12. mac

    mac senior member Staff Member

    It's more productive when we know which seeds work best with which dirt.

    We could drop a thousand in the wrong place with nothing to show whereas one placed carefully in the right place is more likely to sprout and grow.

    Repeatedly saying the same thing might make us feel good but achieve little. It was that sentiment that led to my earlier remark.
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  13. pandora97

    pandora97 Well-Known Member

    Even the healthiest seed planted in the most fertile soil does not sprout overnight. Give her time to get on with her search and she may be back. In the meantime there are others like me. :)

    This is my first post. The reason I'm here is because my sister-in-law heard from my son through a medium. My son has been gone for 20 years! I have to know more. I started looking online and came across the AREI website, then some other sites and then Roberta's books. There is so much information out there.........I feel like I'm beginning the most epic journey of my life with one foot nailed to the floor!o_O I don't know where to start or where I'm going and I have no map! I'm looking for direction and I'm hoping you folks can help.:)
  14. mac

    mac senior member Staff Member

    I do hope our members are able to help you. First, though, it would be helpful to know in what direction you are being drawn, what you're looking for that you haven't found yet.
  15. kim marine

    kim marine Active Member

    I want to talk about seeds. The Source of everything we see is from a state of Consciousness from an eternal mind. Is that correct? Is what we call Christ, not Jesus but Christ, the unifying Consciousness that makes this planet live in harmony? I believe our bodies are illuminated from one Source, and when we leave this earth, by way of death, our illumination returns to that frequency of Consciousness that fits our state of being during our life here. The eternal being of Consciousness can radiate our visible soul, or "seed", wherever It needs us to be in this dimension in order to shed light or be enlightened during our lifetime. It is easy for the Consciousness Mind to exist in an invisible state being, but the challenge is to become physical which is only accessible when every frequency of the eternal Conscious Mind is united.
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  16. mac

    mac senior member Staff Member

    I wonder how that's working out.... o_O
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  17. kim marine

    kim marine Active Member

    I don't know. You tell me. I was asking. I edited the post.
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  18. mac

    mac senior member Staff Member

    From where I'm standing the perspective is that any effort towards harmony on this planet remains work-in-progress......

    The rest of your posting is your own ideas, not mine. My focus was on only a few of your words, the ones I quoted.
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  19. kim marine

    kim marine Active Member

    Yes, well I'm wondering how it works too. I was asking about Christ, not Jesus Christ, but Christ; what is that? Is that the unifying harmonious consciousness? I noticed that even you said "keep Christ in Christmas...." So, what is Christ? Does it mean anything? You read earlier what I feel it is. The vibe I get, is that it doesn't matter what I think or what you think, so what matters?
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  20. kim marine

    kim marine Active Member

    I don't idolize anything because I don't think there is anything here to idolize. I want to BE a piece of Christ Consciousness as I live here now. Is that what you are saying Hardball?

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