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mac's grumble!

Discussion in 'Off-Topic Discussions' started by mac, May 19, 2017.

  1. mac

    mac Staff Member

    It's my 70th birthday and I'm now deep into unofficial old-fart territory so I'm gonna do what my peers are well-known for doing. Today I'm going to be a cranky grumbler, kinda-like old farts are often said to be. Just for today. It's a present to myself..... ;)

    I wonder if anyone else has noticed? Although we don't have a great number of contributors, a fair fraction come with apparently little desire to engage with us regulars. It's not just here, by the way, it's also elsewhere on other forums where I'm a regular. In fairness, though, here we do get a few more new posters!

    Typical scenario. New member posts for the first time. Talks about herself / himself and may, or may not, ask questions. Regular contributors reply, some in detail, others more wary of wasting their effort. (me!) New member perhaps adds another posting or two and is little heard from again. Members continue pointlessly adding to the thread although perhaps they, too, enjoy talking about themselves.... OK that's not an exact situation but I think you'll get my point.

    Can't the new member (I wonder) be arsed to come back with a considered reaction? Does the individual even read what's been said? Or is their particular appearance here simply a 'Facebook moment', a posting about just him/herself, a place just to talk about her/his own life? No real interest in discussing, debating or learning anything about this website's specialty, its raison d'etre?

    I'm mentioning no names but I do get fed up of that kind of approach. Maybe it's just me? Maybe it's my crankiness manifesting again? Maybe I've been around these forum boards too long?

    Don't care - it's my party and I'll cry if I want to....:p:D
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  2. marmaladecat

    marmaladecat Member

    Hi Mac,

    Happy Birthday!

    I agree that recently there seems to be the occasional new members posting who don't really appear to want to engage fully with others - it's as though they merely want to make a statement/ make statements as opposed to further continuing any shared discussion. It was noticeable recently that one new member even appeared to refuse to engage any further on one particular thread, cutting off those individuals that simply had a different perspective!

    It would therefore be helpful if new members were perhaps more mindful to not just post out statements that they have no intention to further debate on. Also should another member have a different perspective to themselves, to then bluntly refuse to discuss that opinion!
    Last edited: May 19, 2017
  3. mac

    mac Staff Member

    Thanks for your birthday wishes, mcat. :) If only new members saw things as we do! But as I mentioned earlier this is not a situation peculiar to ALF.

    One another related website appeared recently a group's representative who wrote at length about how we should treat practitioners purporting to be physical mediums. Her piece was the latest in a long-running thread in which we had discussed apparent mediumship shown by video to be fraudulent. I found the tone high-handed and she had nothing new to say anyway. Nonetheless she declared her group would not enter into any kind of discussion. I was polite but direct about how I felt about such an approach on a website where knowledgeable and experienced members had already expressed their positions.

    Some time I coined 'shidad' to express how such events leave me feeling, kinda like the absurdly overused 'lol'.

    shidad? shakes head in dismay and disbelief :D;)
  4. marmaladecat

    marmaladecat Member

    I just think, why bother to come onto a forum meant for discussion if you are not interested or open to what others have to say! It's fine to disagree with a difference of opinion but maybe not so fine to declare that their own opinion is the only opinion that's correct and that they won't discuss it any further! :rolleyes:
  5. mac

    mac Staff Member

    I think that way too but mostly I just put up with the small annoyance and I say nowt - it's just today's treat. :D

    Tomorrow I'll be my usual sober self on these forum threads. ;) Or perhaps I won't and, hereon in, curmudgeon mode might be my default setting!! :D;)

    We'll see what the trans-Atlantic crew have to say when they get home from work later today.....
  6. poeticblue

    poeticblue Moderator

    Always a chip on your shoulder as usual Mac. We wouldn't have it any other way :D Happy Birthday.
  7. bluebird

    bluebird Regular Contributor

    Happy Birthday, mac! :D
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  8. mac

    mac Staff Member

    I was once told I was very well-balanced with a chip on each shoulder..... :eek::D
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  9. poeticblue

    poeticblue Moderator

    Ha.. nice. That pretty much does sum you up doesnt it?

    But on a serious note, we appreciate you and I appreciate you. I know I haven't expressed it that often and though you still get on my nerves, whether you believe it or not I still consider you a friend. Best wishes.
    Last edited: May 19, 2017
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  10. Amore

    Amore Active Member

    Hi mac and a very Happy Birthday! :)

    As for the members who disappear after one or a couple of posts, or won't join discussions, I can only speak for myself that I don't feel knowledgeable enough to engage in many of the threads here, although I've read many. I find it all very fascinating and interesting but wouldn't know what to say that hasn't already been said in a much more eloquent way by others. So, often I keep silent but I do click on 'Like' a lot! ;)
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