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How To Cut The Ego Out

Discussion in 'Spiritual Growth & Development' started by innerperson, Sep 19, 2018.

  1. Kurt

    Kurt Well-Known Member

    I'd say because it is detrimental to the help you hand out. It makes the person feel patronized and like a zoo exhibit. It is easy to tell when ego is a persons motivating factor. And holier than thougness is always disliked.... And for good reason.
  2. Kurt

    Kurt Well-Known Member

    True. I do to, so I guess we're both strange, but in a good way
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  3. RobertaGrimes

    RobertaGrimes Administrator

    This is a good question, and it never had occurred to me to ask it. Thank you for bringing it up!

    At this point I spend at least sixteen hours a day seven days a week doing things for other people, but it never has occurred to me that any of this might be about me. It is only your question that has made me realize it probably is odd that I don't feel that giving the rest of my life to this work is to my personal credit, so I have put out the question to my guides. And the answer turns out to be simple! Dear innerperson, none of this really is about me! I have been given the incomparable gift of being useful to Spirit and to other people, but it is a gift to me that I am being used this way! It makes me happier than I can express, but it is nothing I ever could do on my own; and the moment I begin to think I deserve credit for it will be the moment when I will lose this gift. Do you see? Each of us who wants to help others is just an avatar of beings not now in bodies, so how can serving Spirit ever be about us personally? Mother Theresa used to say, "I am a little pencil in God's hand." That is what it means to live in service! There is more joy in living this way than there is in doing anything else with your life, but the little pencil gets no credit and it wants no credit. It was lying useless on the table, and God picked it up. It was the pencil who received the greatest gift of all!
  4. EminenceFront

    EminenceFront Member

    There is no such thing as a strange point of observation. What's normal and on whose authority does that decision rest ;)?

    What I have learned, regardless of what choices I make, is that I can allow for the circumstance to dictate how I feel or I can choose to feel any way that I want (happy) without the circumstances having to dictate my emotions. If a situation is "bad" I can examine that situation to see what it is attempting to teach me all the while choosing to be happy in that experience.

    I found that most of us have been taught, cajoled, ridiculed and pressured into believing that the circumstance is foisted upon us and we must be unhappy about the bad ones. This never worked for me.
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  5. Kurt

    Kurt Well-Known Member

    Same. I always get confused when somebody hypes me up.... I literally do nothing. Things are so simple to me.

    I see people in college who think taking 2 hrs. is hard and I think you don't pay for anything and your parents fill things out.

    They go to me for advice and see me as a role model an it confuses me.

    I never set out wanting to take on this big of a workload THIS EARLY, but I did. I became a sushi chef not because I tried to do it, I got it because I did it ..

    I did not get dream credentials by trying to do things I got them because vi did things. I needed a job and refused to sell myself short. I got amazing friends becaueb I avoided bad influences. I built a impressive network because I was friendly where others were intimidated. The only thing I set out with a goal on was to crunch college credits and I'm at 12, not 15 or 18 :(. I got these gov. position s becaybe I honestly got bored and it sounded fun... I have 3.

    I got the campaign jobs because I literally just asked a guy giving a speech if he could get me in...

    The other students are scared to though.... It's understandable, but.... It's still sad....

    They either say "You sound like my dad" or "that's too hard"...

    I literally just walked into a room right as I type this... I asked if I could be a officer in this club and ... They said SURE! And they took a vote.

    Guess what? $350 bonus. The other college kids?

    "That's too hard, you sound like my dad...."

    I got a entry level job at a sushi restaurant in San Antonio. I'll be a chef in a few months. Ill make 30-70k a year as my experience grows.... I literally walked in said the food was good, wrote my name down and followed up 4 times.

    So when they think I'm doing a lot I'm confused.... I do nothing. I get bored and throw crapshots in the ring.... The rest is divine and I have faith, but I dindo take myself seriously... Well not to muxh anyways ... I dedicate myself once I hop in a ring but I rarely run up to one on purpose.

    I'm 18 ... These guys are early to mid 20s.... Ones mad cause I'm best friends with his girlfriend and I make more money then him even though he's he's old enough to be my dad :)))

    But still... They ask my advice and I lay out for them explicit now to 3 months from now plans to go from 10/15 k income to 30k income...

    I even told this guy in almost patronizing language (not rudely, just basic) how to invest in stocks . ...

    "That's too hard man you sound like my dad braw..."

    Last edited: Sep 19, 2018
  6. innerperson

    innerperson Member

    Thanks so much for the replies. They gave me some food for thought which I always appreciate.

    I guess it came down to feeling great when helping others and it made me feel somewhat guilty. haha

    I would like to continue helping when I think I am needed. It can get disheartening reading the news and seeing others treat each other so badly. Not that I haven't screwed up and treated someone badly. It definitely feels worst out there, than, say 10 years ago.

    Hopefully through random acts of kindness we can spread a little more love and those that are helped can help continue that trend. At least that is in the back of my head when I do try and help someone even if it is something very minor.
    Last edited: Sep 19, 2018
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  7. pandora97

    pandora97 Well-Known Member

    Just thought I would add that feeling great after helping someone in need shouldn't cause you to feel guilty. It's only natural to feel happy. Just as "misery loves company" when you're happy you want to share that happiness. Helping others is your way of doing so.;)
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  8. EminenceFront

    EminenceFront Member

    Not only are you raising your spiritual vibratory state by doing so, you are allowing for the co-creation of physical reality with those you help as you agreed before you incarnated!
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  9. jimrich

    jimrich Active Member

    You are not the ego so just ignore it.
    "There is indeed a genuine "I" (or a "You") that is who you truly are. It is eternal, perfect love" ~ Roberta Grimes
    Last edited: Oct 5, 2018
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  10. EminenceFront

    EminenceFront Member


    For the life of me, I used to wonder why I could not understand anyone who supports Trump. I came to realize that Trumpers and thosewho share a more level-headed viewpoint are experiencing completely different physical realities. That's correct. A split, never has one been recorded before on Earth, a split between Trumpers and others. Physically. It's like looking at Trump supporters through a pane of glass from my POV. And vice-versa.

    They said "Everything will change in 2016" and, boy o boy, were they right. :p

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