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How To Cut The Ego Out

Discussion in 'Spiritual Growth & Development' started by innerperson, Sep 19, 2018.

  1. innerperson

    innerperson Member

    I have been reading this forum for some time and found a lot of meaning that I was missing from my Catholic upbringing. Catholicsm wasn't answering the questions I had and was one the reasons I couldn't continue with the religion.

    But the topics of this forum did answer my questions and gave me a better path to follow.

    Thank you for that! Many of the topics, in this forum, has helped my fill in those questions that made sense.

    Now for my question...

    I find great satisfaction in helping people when I am able. I always have.

    While I would rather help people anonymously... I am finding that having discussions on topics like forgiving themselves for past mistakes to be greatly beneficial. Topics that has taken me some time to figure out.

    Some of the people I talk too have had some interesting pasts that they need to overcome.

    I guess my main question is how do I help others without feeding into my own ego? I know, from the past, how our egos can lead us falsely and I am worried that I will fall into some ego trap while trying to help those that ask for help.
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  2. Kurt

    Kurt Well-Known Member

    Be sympathetic and once you do, feel what they do. Then.... Hook into that emotion. You will want them to be better and will be happy when they are.
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  3. innerperson

    innerperson Member

    Thanks Kurt, that means a lot.
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  4. Kurt

    Kurt Well-Known Member

    Your welcome. I had the same issue. Feeling like I was giving bad advice and feeding my own ego...

    I don't anymore.
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  5. innerperson

    innerperson Member

    Thanks again Kurt.

    This last guy I was able to help really resonated with me which is why I asked the question. A lot of his issues was something I had dealt with and was able to discuss what I did that helped me without trying to tell him what he needed to do. I definitely understood where they were coming from because I went through a lot of the same issue that they did. I guess my main worry was helping people like that without feeding into my own ego. Am I trying to really help this guy or am I trying to make myself feel better? I've been ruled by my ego and it was never a positive experience.
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  6. EminenceFront

    EminenceFront Member

    Why would "feeding into your ego" necessarily be a negative experience?

    If you want to help others, then help others. They will see that you are not ego-based and learn, those who will, from your example.
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  7. innerperson

    innerperson Member

    Great question EminenceFront!

    As always, this is from my point of view and you may view things differently which is perfectly fine.

    I do think the reason for helping others is as important as the actual act of helping. If I am helping others because it makes me feel special, then I am not really certain that I am doing it for the right reasons. I think some people, myself included, have done the right things for the wrong reasons. Typically, from my experience, my ego could have pushed me to do something in order to make me feel good. Doing something for personal gain instead of doing something to truly help someone in need. That is why I try to be cognizant of the "why" when I try to help someone.

    I do firmly believe we are here to learn and I want to take advantage of my time on this plane to learn as much as possible before my time is up. That is why I ask myself these types of questions which may seem kind of strange. :)

    I don't recall a great moment when my ego has been involved. The less ego, the happier the memories.
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  8. Kurt

    Kurt Well-Known Member

    Oddly, it feels good to help them out in a nostalgic kind of way...

    Even though it's nothing to feel nostalgic about. I guess it helps bring closure. All of the reflections you might do on what has gone wrong in your life and what you should have done? You can somewhat find out by helping out.

    But it's symbiotic. Just stay hooked into their emotions.

    Your welcome.
  9. Kurt

    Kurt Well-Known Member

    You having these feelings probably means you aren't all about ego. Maybe in the back of your head you know but your still concerned. That's how it was for me... I'm not sure though about others... Everyones different...

    Thank you for being kind and taking the time to read my thoughts
  10. Kurt

    Kurt Well-Known Member

    Hmmm....... Interesting ideas.....

    Ayn Rand, Max Stirner, Trump....would probably/certainly agree.

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