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Afterlife Connections that are selfguided and free of charge

Discussion in 'After-Death Communication' started by Bella, Jan 18, 2013.

  1. http://selfguided.spiritualunderstanding.org/

    I was part of the initial research for this procedure and I got good results from this program, designed to help you make contact with loved ones who have passed. The program utilizes binaural beats. From the site: "The Self-guided Afterlife Connections procedure is a free training program. You will learn how to be more open to messages from your loved ones now living on another plane of life. As a result, you must go through all the training stages, in the order in which they are presented, to learn the skills."
  2. Andrew

    Andrew Guest

    This looks extremely interesting, Bella! Thank you very much for posting this here. I sometimes use binaural beats, as well as isochronic tones, which are slightly different, for meditation purposes. They really do transform the state of the mind. I'll have to try this ASAP!

    For anyone who was interested in Guided Afterlife Connections, by Rochelle Wright & R. Craig Hogan: It may interest you to know that the organization that is working on these self-guided experiences appears to be operated by R. Craig Hogan!
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  3. ravensgate

    ravensgate Active Member

  4. Hi Ravensgate,

    For some reason I did not see that post you are referring to. I was one of the original twenty two people who recorded their experiences this summer when the program was being tested by Dr. Hogan. It was early on in my grief process, as it was only four months since the passing when I tried the program, so my progress was initially spotty. It takes continued use of this program for results to happen. I did have communication from my husband, but what I found was that the more I asked for communication from my husband, the more I began hearing from others who had passed. It seems if we want to hear from someone too much, it might block that person from communicating. As I posted on the Carol and Mikey thread, as a result of the many things I did, including the self-guided afterlife connection work, and my Spiritualist message circles, to my surprise, I began getting messages from the other side for other people. The messages are clear and unmistakable. As for my husband, he needs to send me messages through the others in the Spiritualist medium ship class. So my conclusion is that when we use the Selfguided afterlife connection program it is important to be open to hearing from many, and not only one specific person, because focusing too hard on one person might block communication from that very person we want to hear from. I think the program opens the portal to afterlife communication, and I anticipate that when I am more relaxed about my husband, it will be easier for him to contact me directly.
    Last edited: Jan 21, 2013
  5. I'm going to try this as soon as i get some headphones. It sounds so interesting.
  6. ravensgate

    ravensgate Active Member

    Thank you, Bella. To me that sounds so interesting, fascinating and exciting. I will get started in the near future. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. :)
  7. I also want to try it and I will definitely do it tomorrow. Thank you for sharing it Bella.
  8. You're very welcome. Ravensgate had shared it first and I hadn't seen it, so there is another thread out there about this. I think the program teaches you a lot. It made me realize that letting the messages come was like going to the movies. You sit in the theater and calmly wait for the movie to begin. What is important is that the meditation includes envisioning a white light of loving protection. Grief will bring the person you love to you eventually, but it can't involve feeling sorry for oneself and other related emotions which I was (and still am) experiencing.
  9. I saw your link Ravensgate and thought it looked very interesting. I have been going through Dr Hogans program for the last 2 weeks or so. It is quite a remarkable process. I am up to Stage 6 in the process and have had several very intriguing connections. Bella, you are so right. It is like going to the movies, you really don't know what will unfold next. You just wait for it to happen and often (at least for me), something unexpected may happen. Then you just go with that, its almost like just getting impressions or pictures in your mind. But you know they are not coming from you. I have been connecting with my ex-fiance from many years ago. it seems as though at this time we are re-aquainting and resolving some old issues. We have connected for a couple of brief but very real scenarios. Hopefully you can all give it a try, I am still working on being patient and as Dr Hogan says, don't expect too much, just let it happen.
  10. Pinkroses

    Pinkroses Member

    I've tried it also

    I recently tried the self-guided afterlife connections program with good results. The best way I can think of to describe it is that it's like meditation, but you receive images, words, thoughts, etc. Kind of like when you're starting to fall asleep, only you're fully conscious. The images and words often surprise you, and they seem to come out of nowhere. You may even get information you had no prior knowledge of and can later verify, like I did. For example, in one image of a deceased relative, I saw a unique piece of jewelry I had never seen. Turns out this person actually owned that item. In another session, a deceased friend gave me a word I had never heard of. I actually doubted it was even a real word. However, not only was it real, it had some connection to this person's hobby.

    So, I believe the program is definitely worth trying! Just keep an open mind and don't force things. Let them come to you. It sounds like the majority of people who try it do have connections, so the chances of it working are very good.
  11. Pinkroses,
    Thanks so much for sharing. I am so glad this was effective for you as well. I was wondering how long you took to complete each stage. Also, what stage are you on now? At which points did you begin to see results? I did particularly well with stage 4.
  12. Pinkroses

    Pinkroses Member

    I completed all the stages last month. It took me less than 2 weeks to go through the entire program. At first I did a stage each day, so I completed a lot the first week. One day I did 2 stages. My first afterlife connection came at stage 3, which really surprised me because I didn't expect that so early in the program. I also did very well with stage 4. After that, I had afterlife connections during all of the remaining stages as well as with the central meditation. The validating info I received came at stages 6, 7 and the central meditation.
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  13. Truth seeker

    Truth seeker Member

    Im trying this, I hope it will work for me...I watched before the afterlife connection video on youtube that lasted like 30 minutes and one person described about being in a beach with her relative, I Just watched an artistic video game and it remind me a lot about her description:

    Bientôt l'été

    Bientôt l’été is a videogame for two players. Two players who pretend to be lovers. They pretend to be lovers separated from each other by lightyears of deep space. They have lonely walks along the shore of a simulated ocean, thinking wistful thoughts of each other. Thoughts from ancient Earth literature by Marguerite Duras.............

    Enter a café, exit a villa, enter a casino, exit the ruin of an ancient colonial mansion. We know this is not real. So it doesn’t surprise us. Nothing surprises us. It doesn’t matter when you feel the pain of love. Of being in love, of falling in love, of leaving in love. There is no such thing as time. There is only love. And it never stops. No matter how much it hurts.

  14. Celera

    Celera Active Member

    I just started this program in the last few days. I am on a business trip, so my evenings are free, and being away from the distractions of home life make it a bit easier to concentrate. Last night I worked on stage three.

    It seems right that you have to go in with no expectations -- just at the end of my session last night, I saw a person emerging from the ocean. But then I had an idea who it might be and started shaping the experience instead of letting it happen, and then it was over. As someone who is used to figuring things out and influencing outcomes, this will be a challenge for me. :)

    I'm particularly impressed that after each journal is submitted I am getting personal responses from Dr. Hogan -- I assume, he just signs "Craig" -- which is not something I expected at all. So far, I'm really liking it, much more than I thought I would.
  15. bluebird

    bluebird Well-Known Member

    I hope I can ask these two questions respectfully, as I have no desire to try to diminish anyone else's hope or joy or anything as regards this program or anything else.

    So here goes...

    First -- how do you know, or what makes you think/feel/believe, that what you are seeing is actually from your dead loved one, as opposed to wishful thinking on your part?

    Second -- why would/does God or the universe or whatever make it so hard to even try to establish contact with dead loved ones, ffs? We shouldn't have to go through all these twists and turns and machinations just to be in touch with our loved ones who have died, dammit.
  16. Pinkroses

    Pinkroses Member

    Hi Bluebird,
    I went through the self-guided afterlife connections process and will try to answer your questions.

    I must admit at first I struggled with this too. I wanted to be absolutely certain I wasn't just imagining it or making it up. A few things happened. First, I asked the deceased person questions I didn't know the answers to. I actually received answers and had to go find out if they were true. Turns out, they were! I was quite shocked by this. Since i couldn't make up something I had no knowledge of, I concluded the answers weren't coming from me. Second, I had an experience during a connection where I felt a tingly goosebumps sensation for about 5 minutes straight despite being on the couch under a blanket. When this happened, the deceased person said: "Can you feel me?" This totally surprised me. But since this didn't necessarily prove it was him, I decided to try to recreate this experience. I tried hard to feel the tingly goosebumps sensation on my own. But I just couldn't make it happen. Third, during the connections, I was often surprised by what came up. I even had one where my deceased friend took out a notepad and gave me a lesson. The information turned out to be valuable insight I could apply to my own life. It would be difficult for me to make up something like that.

    For more "proof" the communications are real, you may want to check out this link. It has validations from the self-guided afterlife connections.


    I don't have the answer for this one. The best I can say is that we are in two different worlds, which makes communicating difficult. Without a body, the deceased are left trying to get through by other, more subtle means. It's also possible that communicating with the deceased is difficult because if it were easy, we might not focus on the physical world and our tasks here on earth because we'd be too busy hanging out with our dead loved ones instead.

    Hope this helps!

  17. Celera

    Celera Active Member

    I think Pinkroses did a pretty good job of answering these questions, and she's had more experience with this than I have. but of course I'll throw in my two cents worth anyway.

    As to whether it's just imagination, well I don't know for sure yet. As I did the last exercise, something happened that I did not deliberately intend or create or expect. But maybe that's how creative ideas work ... maybe the person emerging from the surf really was an idea my subconscious mind threw out there. I'm not far enough along to know this for sure based on my own experience.

    Although, if these exercises are just helping me be more in touch with my own imagination, that wouldn't be so bad.

    As far as why it has to be so difficult - well so far it isn't that difficult. It's basically a sort of guided meditation. I've worked on this for a total of about an hour so far. And most of that time has been spent either reading, writing, or sitting with my eyes closed thinking about a beach. So, it's not "shoveling three feet of wet snow" difficult. :)

    I'm not sure that "why does it have to be so difficult" is a question that means anything. My guess is that when we really understand these things, we will realize that it just is this way because that's how it works. The question is like saying "why does it have to be so hard to swim upstream?" or "why does bacon have to be so delicious when it's bad for you?" That's my guess, anyway.
  18. bluebird

    bluebird Well-Known Member

    Thank you Pinkroses and Celera.

    I guess I just don't view this the same way you both seem to. If I were to do this I could maybe accept that what I "saw" was from my husband, but I don't know.

    But as for my other question --

    Pinkroses, I am not focusing on my life or tasks or anything here anyway. ALL of my time is spent mourning my husband, loving him and missing him and usually crying because he died. So if the point of not being allowed to be in real contact with our loved ones is to have us focus on what's left of our lives, that goal or method is a complete failure in my case. I am not capable of giving a damn about anything else, about my life or anything in it. Other than loving my family and our pets, but I was already very close with them before my husband died, so it's not as though that "needed" to happen in order to bring about that love/closeness with them. So since this "method" is a failure with me, why doesn't God or the universe CHANGE it?

    Celera, to me the question of "why does it have to be so difficult" does have meaning. As far as I'm concerned, I am rapidly coming to the conclusion that no loving God exists, because I don't believe that any loving God would first take my husband from me and then not allow me to communicate with him and him with me, so that I would know he's ok, etc. I also don't believe the "we are God" theory -- for a number of reasons, but in this instance partly because this is not something I would EVER have chosen. EVER. If I'm wrong and there is some sort of supposedly "loving" God, then s/he has betrayed me and I no longer trust her/him.

    So not only has my husband died, but I have no interest in life, I hate God if there is one, and no matter what I do it will be wrong. So I am fucking trapped, in life and out of it. If I live, I'm fucked. If I kill myself, I'm fucked. If I just die without killing myself, I'm fucked. I think I just want to cease to be altogether, unless I can just die and be with my husband all the time and not have it hurt my family.

    I'm sorry to derail your thread.
  19. Celera

    Celera Active Member

    I know the question of "why does it have to be so difficult" has meaning now, emotionally and logically. And I agree that there is never a good answer. No explanation of why bad things happen to good people is ultimately very satisfying, especially when you are in the middle of the bad things.

    Nevertheless, my theory is that when we get to where Mikey is, maybe, we will see that the reason no answer really worked is that the question just doesn't have an answer.

    What color is a circle?

    I think maybe it's that kind of a question.

    I realize that doesn't make you feel better, any more than any other theory or philosophy will make you feel better.
  20. Pinkroses

    Pinkroses Member

    I really feel for you, Bluebird, and I sincerely wish there was something I could do or say to help. No one knows why life is so difficult sometimes or why our loved ones are taken from us prematurely. No one knows why there is pain and suffering in this world. For whatever reason, it is just part of our life experiences. I have a million questions myself. Why did my 6-year-old niece get cancer? Why did my grandfather who had minor outpatient surgery die? Why did I lose two babies to miscarriage? Why does my daughter have life-threatening food allergies? Why did my teenage boyfriend abuse me? Why did another former boyfriend, who was a good person, die young? There is so much we don't know and understand in this life. We all experience loss and suffering and sadness. And it truly sucks! Unfortunately, there is nothing we can do about it. I've had times when I was angry at God, doubted his existence and totally lost faith. But sometimes through all of this, we notice a tiny glimmer of hope or experience something we can't explain. It makes you stop and realize there is so much more to life than meets the eye.

    As far as the self-guided afterlife connections, I believe they are a gift and can offer peace and healing to some people. I can't say if it would work for you. Maybe you're not ready to try yet, since your husband's death was so recent. But I do believe that you really don't have anything to lose by attempting it someday. If it doesn't work, you're in the same situation you are now. If it does work, it may bring you closer to your husband and help you to heal. And, if nothing else, the meditation can help you to relax and have a few moments of peace. You certainly deserve that after all you've been through!

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