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Afterlife Connections that are selfguided and free of charge

Discussion in 'After-Death Communication' started by Bella, Jan 18, 2013.

  1. Bella

    Bella New Member

    http://selfguided.spiritualunderstanding.org/

    I was part of the initial research for this procedure and I got good results from this program, designed to help you make contact with loved ones who have passed. The program utilizes binaural beats. From the site: "The Self-guided Afterlife Connections procedure is a free training program. You will learn how to be more open to messages from your loved ones now living on another plane of life. As a result, you must go through all the training stages, in the order in which they are presented, to learn the skills."
     
  2. Andrew

    Andrew Guest

    This looks extremely interesting, Bella! Thank you very much for posting this here. I sometimes use binaural beats, as well as isochronic tones, which are slightly different, for meditation purposes. They really do transform the state of the mind. I'll have to try this ASAP!

    For anyone who was interested in Guided Afterlife Connections, by Rochelle Wright & R. Craig Hogan: It may interest you to know that the organization that is working on these self-guided experiences appears to be operated by R. Craig Hogan!
     
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  3. ravensgate

    ravensgate Active Member

  4. Bella

    Bella New Member

    Hi Ravensgate,

    For some reason I did not see that post you are referring to. I was one of the original twenty two people who recorded their experiences this summer when the program was being tested by Dr. Hogan. It was early on in my grief process, as it was only four months since the passing when I tried the program, so my progress was initially spotty. It takes continued use of this program for results to happen. I did have communication from my husband, but what I found was that the more I asked for communication from my husband, the more I began hearing from others who had passed. It seems if we want to hear from someone too much, it might block that person from communicating. As I posted on the Carol and Mikey thread, as a result of the many things I did, including the self-guided afterlife connection work, and my Spiritualist message circles, to my surprise, I began getting messages from the other side for other people. The messages are clear and unmistakable. As for my husband, he needs to send me messages through the others in the Spiritualist medium ship class. So my conclusion is that when we use the Selfguided afterlife connection program it is important to be open to hearing from many, and not only one specific person, because focusing too hard on one person might block communication from that very person we want to hear from. I think the program opens the portal to afterlife communication, and I anticipate that when I am more relaxed about my husband, it will be easier for him to contact me directly.
     
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  5. cass

    cass New Member

    I'm going to try this as soon as i get some headphones. It sounds so interesting.
     
  6. ravensgate

    ravensgate Active Member

    Thank you, Bella. To me that sounds so interesting, fascinating and exciting. I will get started in the near future. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. :)
     
  7. jenniechan

    jenniechan New Member

    I also want to try it and I will definitely do it tomorrow. Thank you for sharing it Bella.
     
  8. Bella

    Bella New Member

    You're very welcome. Ravensgate had shared it first and I hadn't seen it, so there is another thread out there about this. I think the program teaches you a lot. It made me realize that letting the messages come was like going to the movies. You sit in the theater and calmly wait for the movie to begin. What is important is that the meditation includes envisioning a white light of loving protection. Grief will bring the person you love to you eventually, but it can't involve feeling sorry for oneself and other related emotions which I was (and still am) experiencing.
     
  9. Greystone

    Greystone New Member

    I saw your link Ravensgate and thought it looked very interesting. I have been going through Dr Hogans program for the last 2 weeks or so. It is quite a remarkable process. I am up to Stage 6 in the process and have had several very intriguing connections. Bella, you are so right. It is like going to the movies, you really don't know what will unfold next. You just wait for it to happen and often (at least for me), something unexpected may happen. Then you just go with that, its almost like just getting impressions or pictures in your mind. But you know they are not coming from you. I have been connecting with my ex-fiance from many years ago. it seems as though at this time we are re-aquainting and resolving some old issues. We have connected for a couple of brief but very real scenarios. Hopefully you can all give it a try, I am still working on being patient and as Dr Hogan says, don't expect too much, just let it happen.
     
  10. Pinkroses

    Pinkroses Member

    I've tried it also

    I recently tried the self-guided afterlife connections program with good results. The best way I can think of to describe it is that it's like meditation, but you receive images, words, thoughts, etc. Kind of like when you're starting to fall asleep, only you're fully conscious. The images and words often surprise you, and they seem to come out of nowhere. You may even get information you had no prior knowledge of and can later verify, like I did. For example, in one image of a deceased relative, I saw a unique piece of jewelry I had never seen. Turns out this person actually owned that item. In another session, a deceased friend gave me a word I had never heard of. I actually doubted it was even a real word. However, not only was it real, it had some connection to this person's hobby.

    So, I believe the program is definitely worth trying! Just keep an open mind and don't force things. Let them come to you. It sounds like the majority of people who try it do have connections, so the chances of it working are very good.
     
  11. Bella

    Bella New Member

    Pinkroses,
    Thanks so much for sharing. I am so glad this was effective for you as well. I was wondering how long you took to complete each stage. Also, what stage are you on now? At which points did you begin to see results? I did particularly well with stage 4.
     
  12. Pinkroses

    Pinkroses Member

    Bella,
    I completed all the stages last month. It took me less than 2 weeks to go through the entire program. At first I did a stage each day, so I completed a lot the first week. One day I did 2 stages. My first afterlife connection came at stage 3, which really surprised me because I didn't expect that so early in the program. I also did very well with stage 4. After that, I had afterlife connections during all of the remaining stages as well as with the central meditation. The validating info I received came at stages 6, 7 and the central meditation.
     
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  13. Truth seeker

    Truth seeker Member

    Im trying this, I hope it will work for me...I watched before the afterlife connection video on youtube that lasted like 30 minutes and one person described about being in a beach with her relative, I Just watched an artistic video game and it remind me a lot about her description:

    Bientôt l'été

    Bientôt l’été is a videogame for two players. Two players who pretend to be lovers. They pretend to be lovers separated from each other by lightyears of deep space. They have lonely walks along the shore of a simulated ocean, thinking wistful thoughts of each other. Thoughts from ancient Earth literature by Marguerite Duras.............

    Enter a café, exit a villa, enter a casino, exit the ruin of an ancient colonial mansion. We know this is not real. So it doesn’t surprise us. Nothing surprises us. It doesn’t matter when you feel the pain of love. Of being in love, of falling in love, of leaving in love. There is no such thing as time. There is only love. And it never stops. No matter how much it hurts.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f0nZiWxmHn8
     
  14. Celera

    Celera Active Member

    I just started this program in the last few days. I am on a business trip, so my evenings are free, and being away from the distractions of home life make it a bit easier to concentrate. Last night I worked on stage three.

    It seems right that you have to go in with no expectations -- just at the end of my session last night, I saw a person emerging from the ocean. But then I had an idea who it might be and started shaping the experience instead of letting it happen, and then it was over. As someone who is used to figuring things out and influencing outcomes, this will be a challenge for me. :)

    I'm particularly impressed that after each journal is submitted I am getting personal responses from Dr. Hogan -- I assume, he just signs "Craig" -- which is not something I expected at all. So far, I'm really liking it, much more than I thought I would.
     
  15. bluebird

    bluebird Well-Known Member

    I hope I can ask these two questions respectfully, as I have no desire to try to diminish anyone else's hope or joy or anything as regards this program or anything else.

    So here goes...

    First -- how do you know, or what makes you think/feel/believe, that what you are seeing is actually from your dead loved one, as opposed to wishful thinking on your part?

    Second -- why would/does God or the universe or whatever make it so hard to even try to establish contact with dead loved ones, ffs? We shouldn't have to go through all these twists and turns and machinations just to be in touch with our loved ones who have died, dammit.
     
  16. Pinkroses

    Pinkroses Member

    Hi Bluebird,
    I went through the self-guided afterlife connections process and will try to answer your questions.

    I must admit at first I struggled with this too. I wanted to be absolutely certain I wasn't just imagining it or making it up. A few things happened. First, I asked the deceased person questions I didn't know the answers to. I actually received answers and had to go find out if they were true. Turns out, they were! I was quite shocked by this. Since i couldn't make up something I had no knowledge of, I concluded the answers weren't coming from me. Second, I had an experience during a connection where I felt a tingly goosebumps sensation for about 5 minutes straight despite being on the couch under a blanket. When this happened, the deceased person said: "Can you feel me?" This totally surprised me. But since this didn't necessarily prove it was him, I decided to try to recreate this experience. I tried hard to feel the tingly goosebumps sensation on my own. But I just couldn't make it happen. Third, during the connections, I was often surprised by what came up. I even had one where my deceased friend took out a notepad and gave me a lesson. The information turned out to be valuable insight I could apply to my own life. It would be difficult for me to make up something like that.

    For more "proof" the communications are real, you may want to check out this link. It has validations from the self-guided afterlife connections.

    http://newsletter.guidedafterlifeconnections.com/selfguided_validations.htm


    I don't have the answer for this one. The best I can say is that we are in two different worlds, which makes communicating difficult. Without a body, the deceased are left trying to get through by other, more subtle means. It's also possible that communicating with the deceased is difficult because if it were easy, we might not focus on the physical world and our tasks here on earth because we'd be too busy hanging out with our dead loved ones instead.

    Hope this helps!

    Pinkroses
     
  17. Celera

    Celera Active Member

    I think Pinkroses did a pretty good job of answering these questions, and she's had more experience with this than I have. but of course I'll throw in my two cents worth anyway.

    As to whether it's just imagination, well I don't know for sure yet. As I did the last exercise, something happened that I did not deliberately intend or create or expect. But maybe that's how creative ideas work ... maybe the person emerging from the surf really was an idea my subconscious mind threw out there. I'm not far enough along to know this for sure based on my own experience.

    Although, if these exercises are just helping me be more in touch with my own imagination, that wouldn't be so bad.

    As far as why it has to be so difficult - well so far it isn't that difficult. It's basically a sort of guided meditation. I've worked on this for a total of about an hour so far. And most of that time has been spent either reading, writing, or sitting with my eyes closed thinking about a beach. So, it's not "shoveling three feet of wet snow" difficult. :)

    I'm not sure that "why does it have to be so difficult" is a question that means anything. My guess is that when we really understand these things, we will realize that it just is this way because that's how it works. The question is like saying "why does it have to be so hard to swim upstream?" or "why does bacon have to be so delicious when it's bad for you?" That's my guess, anyway.
     
  18. bluebird

    bluebird Well-Known Member

    Thank you Pinkroses and Celera.

    I guess I just don't view this the same way you both seem to. If I were to do this I could maybe accept that what I "saw" was from my husband, but I don't know.

    But as for my other question --

    Pinkroses, I am not focusing on my life or tasks or anything here anyway. ALL of my time is spent mourning my husband, loving him and missing him and usually crying because he died. So if the point of not being allowed to be in real contact with our loved ones is to have us focus on what's left of our lives, that goal or method is a complete failure in my case. I am not capable of giving a damn about anything else, about my life or anything in it. Other than loving my family and our pets, but I was already very close with them before my husband died, so it's not as though that "needed" to happen in order to bring about that love/closeness with them. So since this "method" is a failure with me, why doesn't God or the universe CHANGE it?

    Celera, to me the question of "why does it have to be so difficult" does have meaning. As far as I'm concerned, I am rapidly coming to the conclusion that no loving God exists, because I don't believe that any loving God would first take my husband from me and then not allow me to communicate with him and him with me, so that I would know he's ok, etc. I also don't believe the "we are God" theory -- for a number of reasons, but in this instance partly because this is not something I would EVER have chosen. EVER. If I'm wrong and there is some sort of supposedly "loving" God, then s/he has betrayed me and I no longer trust her/him.

    So not only has my husband died, but I have no interest in life, I hate God if there is one, and no matter what I do it will be wrong. So I am fucking trapped, in life and out of it. If I live, I'm fucked. If I kill myself, I'm fucked. If I just die without killing myself, I'm fucked. I think I just want to cease to be altogether, unless I can just die and be with my husband all the time and not have it hurt my family.

    I'm sorry to derail your thread.
     
  19. Celera

    Celera Active Member

    I know the question of "why does it have to be so difficult" has meaning now, emotionally and logically. And I agree that there is never a good answer. No explanation of why bad things happen to good people is ultimately very satisfying, especially when you are in the middle of the bad things.

    Nevertheless, my theory is that when we get to where Mikey is, maybe, we will see that the reason no answer really worked is that the question just doesn't have an answer.

    What color is a circle?

    I think maybe it's that kind of a question.

    I realize that doesn't make you feel better, any more than any other theory or philosophy will make you feel better.
     
  20. Pinkroses

    Pinkroses Member

    I really feel for you, Bluebird, and I sincerely wish there was something I could do or say to help. No one knows why life is so difficult sometimes or why our loved ones are taken from us prematurely. No one knows why there is pain and suffering in this world. For whatever reason, it is just part of our life experiences. I have a million questions myself. Why did my 6-year-old niece get cancer? Why did my grandfather who had minor outpatient surgery die? Why did I lose two babies to miscarriage? Why does my daughter have life-threatening food allergies? Why did my teenage boyfriend abuse me? Why did another former boyfriend, who was a good person, die young? There is so much we don't know and understand in this life. We all experience loss and suffering and sadness. And it truly sucks! Unfortunately, there is nothing we can do about it. I've had times when I was angry at God, doubted his existence and totally lost faith. But sometimes through all of this, we notice a tiny glimmer of hope or experience something we can't explain. It makes you stop and realize there is so much more to life than meets the eye.

    As far as the self-guided afterlife connections, I believe they are a gift and can offer peace and healing to some people. I can't say if it would work for you. Maybe you're not ready to try yet, since your husband's death was so recent. But I do believe that you really don't have anything to lose by attempting it someday. If it doesn't work, you're in the same situation you are now. If it does work, it may bring you closer to your husband and help you to heal. And, if nothing else, the meditation can help you to relax and have a few moments of peace. You certainly deserve that after all you've been through!
     
  21. bluebird

    bluebird Well-Known Member

    Celera, if there is no answer to the question of why horrible things happen, especially to good people, then that only further reinforces to me that God, if there is one, either doesn't know what it's doing or doesn't care. It should not be this way. I can understand, I suppose, some bad things happening in life, to a certain extent -- but the anguish of losing our loved ones and then on top of that not even knowing if they still exist?!? There is NO reason for that, as far as I'm concerned.

    Pinkroses, thank you. And I am sorry that all the bad stuff you mentioned has happened to you and your loved ones. Again, to me it just reinforces what I said to Celera about God. If there's a God, then s/he has done a piss-poor job of structuring the way we live and die, IMHO.
     
  22. RobertaGrimes

    RobertaGrimes Administrator

    Sweet friend, I hope you won't mind my giving you some advice based in decades of doing afterlife research and counseling the bereaved. I understand that you are in a lot of pain! But you are making some assumptions about reality and about God that are getting in the way of your healing, and it is likely to be only as you are healing that you can really hear from your husband. (Notice I haven't said "getting over" or "getting better." You will never get over this. But it is possible for the rawness of the pain to lessen, and that is going to be crucial to your being able to communicate with him well.)

    Strong negative emotions can act as a barrier to communication with those in the afterlife levels, as I know we've said elsewhere. Things are as they are; reality is what it is. Nothing about this is a matter of belief! All my research has indicated to me that these things are true:

    1) Human life is eternal. It is impossible for your husband ever to die. He is alive and fine, and you will see him again.

    2) Most of the major events of our lives are planned. Apparently that includes nearly all deaths.

    3) Our earth-lives are brief! If your husband were permanently gone from your life, then your anger would be warranted. But in the eternity that is your life and his, this little minute of separation from your husband needn't distress you so much, beloved Bluebird. One day you will look back and realize that. For now, please try to open your mind a little bit to the possibility that things aren't as you have come to believe them to be!

    4) God did not take your husband. Period! Being angry with God for what God actually didn't do is a very destructive thing, darling friend. It hurts only you. Please try to get past it, for your own sake.

    I'm sorry, dear. You are likely angry with me for saying these things. But it's so important that you put yourself into a frame of mind that will allow good communication! Only then can the worst of your pain start to pass. It's all possible for you, darling. Please give it a try! Big, big hug!
     
  23. bluebird

    bluebird Well-Known Member

    Roberta, of course I don't mind you giving advice -- but in turn, please don't mind if I cannot accept/use it, though I know it is well-intentioned.

    I have read/heard many times about strong negative emotions acting as a barrier to communication with our dead loved ones. I don't know if it's true, but if so then that is one of the things that really angers me, as it means that just when we most need that communication, we can't have it. That said -- aside from my love for my family and our pets, I am full of mostly sadness, with some anger mixed in, yet I have had many signs. I find it hard to 100% believe, 100% of the time, that they are actual signs from my husband, but offhand I think there have been at least 10 signs, maybe more, and some of them are very strong. So I don't know that I believe that sadness/anger prevent our loved ones from contacting us, or at least not that that is universally true.

    I understand that you believe that the things you state in your post are fact rather than belief, because your research has indicated to you that they are. I am not impugning your research or your beliefs, but at the same time other peoples' research and beliefs, while interesting, to me don't actually prove the existence of an afterlife.

    1) Human life is eternal. It is impossible for your husband ever to die. He is alive and fine, and you will see him again.
    ----> I fervently hope you are right. Him being alive, fine, and still himself, and us being together again with our love as it has always been, is literally the most important thing in my existence.

    2) Most of the major events of our lives are planned. Apparently that includes nearly all deaths.
    ----> I respectfully disagree, at least in the particular case of my husband and me. I know that he would never have chosen to die and have me feel this pain and anguish, and I know that I would never have chosen this either.

    3) Our earth-lives are brief! If your husband were permanently gone from your life, then your anger would be warranted. But in the eternity that is your life and his, this little minute of separation from your husband needn't distress you so much, beloved Bluebird. One day you will look back and realize that. For now, please try to open your mind a little bit to the possibility that things aren't as you have come to believe them to be!
    ----> My husband is permanently gone from at least this earthly life with me, and that in itself is enough to make me sad and angry. It is beyond unfair, especially the timing of it. Had this happened when we were old, it would be somewhat easier to accept. Had it happened 25 years from now, it would still be at least slightly easier to accept. Even 10 years from now, while it would suck, would not suck as much as having my beloved husband die one week after our wedding. On top of which, I don't know that this separation is temporary. I hope it is, but I can't be sure. I don't have a specific belief as to whether there is an afterlife or not, whether we will be together again or not, whether there is a God or not. I am beyond open to the possibility of an afterlife, I hope beyond hope that it exists and that my husband is there and happy.

    4) God did not take your husband. Period! Being angry with God for what God actually didn't do is a very destructive thing, darling friend. It hurts only you. Please try to get past it, for your own sake.-
    ---> With all due respect, how do you know? I don't believe that any living human can fully understand God, if there is a God. I don't know if God actively killed/took my husband or if s/he just allowed him to die, but if there is a God then at the very least s/he did not stop it from happening, despite knowing (if s/he is omniscient, though really anyone who knows me at all would know this) that my husband is more important to me than any other person or being or thing in the entire universe. If there's a God, then God knew or should have known how devastating this would be for me, yet s/he did it (or allowed it to happen) anyway, regardless of my desperate prayers and pleading. If there is a God, an afterlife, etc., then maybe when I'm dead if I then have some greater insight into things I may view this differently, but unless my husband comes himself and tells me otherwise, I doubt I will ever stop blaming God for my husband's death at any time during this earthly life.


    I am not angry at you for the things you said. I know you are only trying to help, and I appreciate it. i just don't share your views, or at least not all of them.
     
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  24. Celera

    Celera Active Member

    I thought I would update whoever might be interested on my progress (minimal though it is) with this program.

    The first time I tried stage three, and saw the silhouette of a man emerging from the ocean, I knew it was Don, my dear friend who died (four years ago today, actually.) He loved scuba and snorkeling. Anyway, I knew it was him, and I still know it was him. The sight of him walking out of the water was completely different from anything I was imagining about the sounds and sights and smells of a beach. But as soon as I thought, "it's Don" the bubble burst.

    In stage four, the exercise is to imagine a "place of great beauty." And then at some point you have to imagine a door in this place which is the door to the afterlife. Well, I have such a tendency to feel I have to do things "right" that this was complicated for me. So I picked a spot, after much deliberation and indecision as to which would be the best choice among the many beautiful places I've seen. I tried to keep imagining it, while also thinking of my great-aunt. But the idea of a church -- and older church with stained glass windows -- kept popping insistently into my mind. I resisted it because I thought it was my wandering mind. This got me something akin to a scolding from Dr. Hogan, as he was sure she was trying to meet me there and when he said that I was immediately sure he was right. A church like that is exactly where she would try to meet me, knowing her.

    Another challenge I've found is that most of the very beautiful places I try to imagine are outside -- and then there are no doors. Even in that church -- where is the door supposed to be? Behind the alter? At the back of the sanctuary? In the middle of no place? As I try to find the correct location for this door, of course the whole thing falls apart.

    I only practice this once a week or so -- most times I don't really experience anything except for a few minutes of deep relaxation. I can't do it when I'm sleepy, obviously, or when I've had wine with dinner -- even a little seems to "break" something that is needed to get to the right mental state. I have to ensure I won't be interrupted which isn't always easy.

    The other night, though, I was -- in my mind -- sitting on a rocky beach. We visited such a beach in New England last December, so I just went back there to sit on the rocks and watch the great waves and the little tidepool ripples, and feel the cold breeze. And suddenly there was someone next to me. Not Don, or anyone I knew by name, but not a stranger. A male presence. He sat next to me and put his arm around me and I felt loved and cared for and encouraged. He seemed to be saying, "don't worry, you're doing ok."

    This had the distinct feeling of being neither a memory nor imagination, it was something that happened in that moment.

    I've noticed in the last few weeks that some of my dreams are rather different also. The other night I had a dream that I was at a great family reunion. The particulars don't seem to matter, but I was in a big house surrounded by people of all ages, and just before I woke up I stood up to make a toast or a speech, and was thanking everyone for including me in their family. That doesn't probably sound like much, but it was not so disjointed as most of my dreams (no streets filled with pumpkin pie). So, maybe when I'm dreaming, my mind is less encumbered by my habit of thinking everything out logically.

    Well, this was long, and perhaps of little interest to most people. If you are thinking of trying the self-guided afterlife communication program, I still recommend it, even though I haven't been able to get very far. There is definitely something to it.
     
  25. VainVessel

    VainVessel New Member

    Thanks for sharing your experiences, they're very interesting. I also have trouble visualizing locations, I keep worrying too much about the details and wander off. I usually have better experiences while meditating, but I'm gonna give the steps another try or two.
     
  26. Pinkroses

    Pinkroses Member

    Hi Celera,
    After reading your progress with the program, I just wanted to say that you're making some connections, which is great. :) My personal opinion is that you're worrying too much about what you see and what you think you should see. It doesn't matter what images come or where the door to the afterlife is. It doesn't need to be in a logical, well-planned location. The door can be floating in the middle of the scene, if that's what come to you. When I did the program, I noticed that when I tried to focus on something intently, it went away. I was trying too hard. But when I let whatever popped into my head just stay there without fighting it or trying to change it, that's when the best connections happened. Sometimes the images surprised me; sometimes they didn't make sense. But when I let them be, they always turned into something meaningful. Believe me, I know how hard it is to try not to control what we see! I just wanted to encourage you. It sounds like you're definitely learning how to connect, and I wish you the best of luck with your future connections! :)
     
  27. orangeysky

    orangeysky Member

    Celera, great story and I truly think you are making progress. Good for you...to keep moving forward and not giving up. I think all of us who have tried this have done the same thing by over thinking the location, scene, etc. instead of just letting it happen. It's very difficult to not let your mind wander and question results. I got to stage 2 and just never went back. Your posting has encouraged me to go back and start the process over. Thank you for your post updating us on your progress, I hope you continue to update us.
     
  28. vic smyth

    vic smyth New Member

    Celera, I have to agree with the others that you are making definite progress, and in a relatively short period of time. I encourage you to keep it up and report your further progress to us once in a while.

    With Lovingkindness (metta),
    vic
     
  29. Nirvana

    Nirvana Member

    This is what I wanted to expand on a little. Didn't one of your mediumistic friends say your husband didn't expect to die?
     
  30. bluebird

    bluebird Well-Known Member

    Nirvana,

    Not that I remember, though it's possible that one did and I've forgotten it. But whether he had "planned" the time of his death in some "before-life" or not, I would think it would still come as a shock to him while in the process of dying and directly afterwards (if our souls do continue to exist after death). Regardless, I KNOW that neither my husband nor I would have chosen this. We did NOT plan this, either of us.

    It seems to be a fairly common belief on this forum that we all "plan" the major instances of our lives, whilst in heaven or whatever-there-is (if anything) before this life. In large part, I do not share this belief. If our souls do exist before and after this life, then I think it's possible that we might plan some general things beforehand, such as choosing to have musical ability or choosing the country in which we are born. But I do NOT believe that we choose our deaths, nor do I believe that we choose to suffer with various physical and/or mental ailments.
     

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