My dad

[Billyjean]

Hi Knight

My mum passed away suddenly 17 months ago. I have had a few experiences, that I will one day write about here at length. But on the whole most of my experiences in seeing my mother since she passed has been in my dreams. My mother and I used to strongly believe in our dreams and talk to each other about our dreams, so it is not surprising that this is the vehicle for communication being used. In the early months, I had such vivid and lucid dreams, that I could describe what she was wearing, and would ask her questions, including about her passing and the afterlife. Her answers were mostly vague on this subject, and I felt that I was being left to answer some of these. I have always jotted down my dreams of her which have been plentiful. It is only recently that I have not recalled some of the dreams with her in, but I think this is because of my state of mind at the moment. I know there have been dreams, because when I try hard to recall them, I can usually remember some fragments.

My mother was also a heavy smoker, and on two occasions I have smelt her particular smell of cigarettes. Once in my car, and very recently around my birthday, in my kitchen. I spoke aloud to her to let her know I knew she was there. There has been some other signs, but these were the strongest.

It is worthwhile writing these things down when they happen, so that when you feel low, and think that you are not hearing from your loved one, read over these, to remember.

Incidentally my uncle has my mums old mobile, which lights up mum, whenever he rings me. I always get that warm feeling that she's there when I talk to him. Maybe she gets him to ring me at these times.

Just look for the signs, and they'll appear. Be open, in a positive frame of mind, and think of your loved one and they will appear. Not in a way to frighten you, but in a nice way, as in your dreams.

[orangeysky]

What Big gun are u talking about?

Lol sorry Knight. That was figure of speech. The big guns meaning the more senior, experienced members on this site who have more in depth, detailed knowledge to guide you.

[Carol and Mikey]

Thank u both for ur replies. Have any of u ever lost someone and heard from them?

I am so sorry to hear about your loss knight1985. Our loved ones can communicate with us in several different ways. Many good posts here! I am a huge believer in "signs" and have journaled my signs from my son Mikey since his passing. I love to go back and read them. Makes me feel good, even with what I have going on now with communication. I will say that music is a big way they can communicate with us. Pay attention to songs and what they say. It can be amazing. Pay attention to the timing. I have had some very vivid dreams of Mikey in the past with him telling me, "Mom, I am still close! I can hear you when you talk to me!"
Early on, others would tell me things they experienced that they knew were from Mikey. This too was very helpful as I was in such deep pain that he would go to others that he could reach better at that time. (Deep grief is a low vibrating emotion which makes it tough for them to reach us.) Remember that signs and communication can be more subtle. We need to think outside the box a bit. But do know they absolutely can communicate with us and they do live on! We will see our loved ones again! I know it!
Carol

[knight1985]

Hey Carol, is there any way u cud get any information bout my dad from Mikey? I know its selfish, but i just need to know. :-(. I dont think of u and Mikey as some messengers, but i hope u understand the pain im going through. Would u need any info on him, please tell me

[Carol and Mikey]

Knight1985,
Mikey does not know who your dad is. The spiritual connection is by loving energy. My communication skills are with Mikey mainly, and I have not done much in readings . I know my gift was given to teach with Mikey through the veil and help others know that love never dies and we will see our loved ones again! I am told that teaching is my main purpose of why this happened to me. I leave the other type of readings for the true "mediums". I know your dad is in a loving place! Please pay attention to everything around you and open your heart to your dad. He will let you know he lives on and will continue to watch over you on this life journey!
Carol

[Roberta Grimes]

Hi Knight

My mum passed away suddenly 17 months ago. I have had a few experiences, that I will one day write about here at length. But on the whole most of my experiences in seeing my mother since she passed has been in my dreams. My mother and I used to strongly believe in our dreams and talk to each other about our dreams, so it is not surprising that this is the vehicle for communication being used. In the early months, I had such vivid and lucid dreams, that I could describe what she was wearing, and would ask her questions, including about her passing and the afterlife. Her answers were mostly vague on this subject, and I felt that I was being left to answer some of these. I have always jotted down my dreams of her which have been plentiful. It is only recently that I have not recalled some of the dreams with her in, but I think this is because of my state of mind at the moment. I know there have been dreams, because when I try hard to recall them, I can usually remember some fragments.

My mother was also a heavy smoker, and on two occasions I have smelt her particular smell of cigarettes. Once in my car, and very recently around my birthday, in my kitchen. I spoke aloud to her to let her know I knew she was there. There has been some other signs, but these were the strongest.

It is worthwhile writing these things down when they happen, so that when you feel low, and think that you are not hearing from your loved one, read over these, to remember.

Incidentally my uncle has my mums old mobile, which lights up mum, whenever he rings me. I always get that warm feeling that she's there when I talk to him. Maybe she gets him to ring me at these times.

Just look for the signs, and they'll appear. Be open, in a positive frame of mind, and think of your loved one and they will appear. Not in a way to frighten you, but in a nice way, as in your dreams.

Dear Billyjean, thank you for such a lovely message! I once had a smoke sign as well - from my brother-in-law, Jerry, who had been a heavy smoker - and wow, was that an arresting moment! You are right, dear friend - the signs are everywhere ;-). Our loved ones are desperate to let us know they are okay.

Dear beloved Knight, of course you will see your dad again. He is fine! And he won't reincarnate while those that he loves are still living the rest of their lives here, so that is not a worry. This first period of deep grieving tends to act as a barrier to communication (and yes, I know how unfair that is) - but as you work through it, you will likely begin to notice little love-signs from your dad. I wish we could tel you what he will do, but the signs the dead give us are so many and so varied that all we can say is that you will need to learn to be alert for anything unusual. Search the threads here, dear friend - there are lots of examples of signs that members have received from those they love. My mother graduated at the end of July, and perhaps because she had been dying for so long and I am so certain that she is fine I had no deep-grief barrier in place. She was sending me signs within days! (I think she had some help from her son-in-law, who loves doing this stuff - check out my thread, Jerry's Communication, in the Communicating With the Dead section.) My mother's signs included some odd little coincidences, things that only she and I would have known about; and they included some spectacular clouds of butterflies and dragonflies. I have never, before or since, seen more than two or three of either species together here, but in the days after my mother's death there were on successive days vast displays of butterflies in my backyard, and then on the next day great clouds of dragonflies, and then on another day both together. And then nothing. The odds against chance for all of that are astronomical!

So, yes, dear Knight, we have heard from dead loved ones. That human beings easily survive the illusion that we call death has been repeatedly, incontrovertibly proven. But you won't find much comfort in what we know until you have done enough of your own research to begin to develop your own understanding. I wish there were an easier way! Please read through the threads here, ask us questions, and let us help you learn, dear friend. As your fear of having lost him lessens, you will become more open to communications. And they will come. He is fine. And you cannot ever lose his love!

[vic smyth]

Thank u both for ur replies. Have any of u ever lost someone and heard from them?

Absolutely without a doubt!


With Lovingkindness (metta),
vic

[ilovelearninhg]

I'm sorry for the loss of your dad, I know in time you will have some contact with him. I think it is probably too soon to hear from him but eventually you will.