Video of Carol & Mikey Communicating

[Bella]

Having gone too many times to mediums, and having been told by each one that I should not go anymore because I am wearing out my hubby, I asked the last medium whether 'automatic writing', would be o.k. She said that would not deplete my husband's energy and would be an acceptable means of communication. I was told to pray and meditate first, as there are tricksters who impersonate on the other side, and to ask for a sign that it is my hubby first. It got me to thinking that this means of communication, like the pendulum, is acceptable and possible for many people, because it relies on shared energy. I recently read Judy Boss's account of how she communicated with her husband via automatic writing. She actually sounded like a happy widow because of this automatic writing practice. She found herself consoling other people (I can't relate to this somehow, but I'm trying). She apparently learned the technique from reading Ruth Montgomery's books. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

[Carol and Mikey]

Bella,
I have no idea how this works. But I have heard of Ruth Montgomery before. I do think it is important to be able to confirm it is your husband. Roberta knows some on this subject I think. You do need to be cautious and have a means of validation. Mikey tells me they "don't run out of energy" when they communicate. He could communicate all day if I wanted! Sally Baldwin told me the same thing. Food for thought anyway. I had a medium tell me that just before the hour that I scheduled with her was up. Hmmmmmmm .........questionable! Are we really wearing out our loved ones? Mikey says no! I did wait between visits with mediums for about 6 months, but I relied heavily on signs as I knew this was communication. I always talked out loud to Mikey, as even back then, I knew in my heart he heard me. And they do! This helped me so much.
Carol and Mikey 'in Spirit"

[mokandi]

Carol
I really need to hear from my son. I'm losing it and I'm not sure I can do this. Do you think a medium is a good idea and if so who?

[Bella]

I sent you a pm, Mokandi. Please check. There are ways that going to a medium can help.

[Bella]

Carol,
You so generously told me this before with reference to the pendulum, so I assumed that it was the communication *with the medium* that drained their energy. The medium told me that my husband said to wait "three months at least" before seeing another person "like her." It might also be because it was so soon for me. It has been exactly two months and two days and I have sought help twice (plus twice on the phone). There must be some rules on the other side that have to be followed so that we on this side don't get too dependent. Maybe the medium thought it was the energy issue but it's really that. I'm so confused at this point, but I do know that the automatic writing is o.k. I definitely need validation that it's him. I'm going to get some help with that validation. What is the reason for the six month wait rule anyway? If anyone knows, please share when possible.

[Carol and Mikey]

Bella,
I actually feel it is the medium who "tires out" versus our loved one. I know I do get tired and need to take a break in the action when I do this for hours. I had a group of friends over and I bet we went for 5 hours, though it was not constant talking with Mikey, it was a lot. I was tired after. Mikey could have kept on going.
Mikey tells me there is no rule per say as to 6 months, etc. But he does say there needs to be time to allow the intense grief to soften as with this type of grief, communication is more difficult. It is harder to connect. Which does make sense. I did not go see a medium for at least 5 months after the accident. But when I did, I was very ready and open to what they said. I would then wait for 6 months before I went again. I really embraced the signs I was getting. I continued to talk to Mikey out loud as I knew he heard me. I journaled daily. I payed very close attention to songs, etc. as I knew the music was Mikey talking. I felt it in my heart. People thought I was nutty, but it helped me so and I was not going to stop. It gave me hope and it has brought me to where I am today. It was a choice I made and no one was going to tell me that my signs were not Mikey. I thought everything was a sign ....and it is!!! It worked for me!
Mokandi,
I do feel a medium is very helpful. There are good ones and some that are not as good. I know there are several threads that talk about different ones. I liked CJ Sellers. Another one I was really impressed with is John Holland. Not sure on the costs of these people. But seeing a medium was huge!
Love and peace to you both!
Carol and Mikey "in Spirit"

[mac]

I'm sorry but mac's gonna be a wet blanket and caution that whatever practitioner is visited it's vitally important to understand what that individual claims to do.....

A psychic does not provide communication between loved ones and ourselves but a medium (confusingly termed 'psychic medium' in the US, evidential medium here in the UK) may be able to. Whichever side of the pond one may live it can be hard to find a reputable one and if any claim to guarantee to reach a particular individual they deserve to be treated with caution.

For a raft of reasons, transdimensional communication is often unpredictable and unreliable. Some folk don't ever get the evidence, the 'proof', they seek. For every one of the spectacular success stories there will be many which are not. I realize this is depressing but I think it's best not to hold unrealistic expectations.

Competent, experienced mediums would not say some of the stuff I've read here and elsewhere. There's no period that the recently passed have to wait before they may communicate. There's no particular period necessary or desirable between visiting one medium and then another. Communicators don't run out of energy although practitioners often do and they may also run out of time and patience!

My personal opinion is that automatic writing may be worth a try but that what comes through should be critically examined - if communication occurs, who are you communicating with and how do you know for sure it's who you think or who they claim to be?

It's sad but there are deceivers 'over-there' just as there are over here. Mischief makers can cause much heartache before they're found out.

[Bella]

Carol & Mikey and Mac,
Thank you so much again for taking the time to answer and clarify. This helps me better understand. It makes sense that it is my grief and the medium's energy that might be problematic. The medium did not say that it was too early to contact my husband. In fact, neither of them said that, but rather, commented that my grief was causing a lot of emotional turbulence during the reading. It is a fact though that the first medium was resolute about waiting six months, and the second medium said that my husband said to wait 'three months'. I can't say that this makes the medium incompetent when I received tremendous affirmations. One validation was a funny, made-up word that we had in the family - one that my hubby made up and my kids and I only know. Another was the observation, from my husband to the medium, of unusual things that we were doing in and around the house.

I believe you mentioned in a previous post, Mac, that mediums can't be 100% accurate, and this one was 90% accurate, with the 10% related to the issue of energy depletion on the part of the one who is passed, obviously. This was brought home to me by Carol's story about how she was using the pendulum for five hours! Wow. That is amazing.

Thanks for the input about automatic writing. My view was that we always have to ask for validation to make sure it is who we think we are communicating with, whether it is through a medium, pendulum (Carol asked for validation from Mikey at first and now she is experienced) or automatic writing. What is different in each case is the experience of the practitioner, so I need training, I think.

As far as the mediums go, it can be truly disappointing for some, but on each occasion, I have come away with validations that have moved me forward. These were things that no one else could have known about my husband, myself and my children.

I recently began working with another therapist, this time a bereavement counselor associated with the hospital's hospice program. This is a mainstream hospice, and the hospital is very reputable. The counselor surprised me in that she casually mentioned that I needed to change, and not sever, my relationship with my husband, to adjust to the physical loss. Even the literature she gave me supported a belief in our ability to communicate with the afterlife - not in a direct way, but in a subtle way.

If we can find a reputable medium (by word of mouth), this can help with the transition, I think. After that, direct communication can possibly be the aim, but we need training. I do think this is something we all can do. I am looking into various possibilities, including meditation, as a way of moving in that direction, and trying to get help so that something like automatic writing can be a possibility.

Thanks again, and Mokandi, I hope this was helpful to you as well.

[mac]

Bella

I deliberately didn't direct my comments towards you and hence didn't use the 'Quote' button on your posting. Incidentally I don't think it was myself who had earlier mentioned 100% accuracy in terms of mediums.

The points I made were intended be general remarks for anyone following the thread and particularly the many lurkers there appears to be on the website. If you're getting good evidence that your communication is from your husband and you're happy with it then my remarks plainly don't apply in your own situation and I'm pleased for you.

But again in general terms I'm concerned that the unusual situation of Carol and Mikey may lead others to expect they'll be able to achieve something similar. Nonetheless I'd love find my concerns are unfounded, to learn that folk do succeed in such a way and that there is a predictably reliable way of achieving similar, startlingly evidential communication.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for success for anyone trying.

[Bella]

Mac,
I apologize. I thought I recalled you saying that even the best mediums are not 100% accurate. Maybe that was someone else. I understand and share your concern about the dangers of trying to duplicate the 'Carol and Mikey' communication, but I feel Mokandi's sadness and I hope that at least Mokandi can seek some kind of solace through researching the various possibilities that have helped others here.