Having gone too many times to mediums, and having been told by each one that I should not go anymore because I am wearing out my hubby, I asked the last medium whether 'automatic writing', would be o.k. She said that would not deplete my husband's energy and would be an acceptable means of communication. I was told to pray and meditate first, as there are tricksters who impersonate on the other side, and to ask for a sign that it is my hubby first. It got me to thinking that this means of communication, like the pendulum, is acceptable and possible for many people, because it relies on shared energy. I recently read Judy Boss's account of how she communicated with her husband via automatic writing. She actually sounded like a happy widow because of this automatic writing practice. She found herself consoling other people (I can't relate to this somehow, but I'm trying). She apparently learned the technique from reading Ruth Montgomery's books. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?