Jerry's Communication

[Bella]

Roberta,
Thank you for this post, and the one about your mom crossing over. I wish I could have your attitude and that of your sister. I miss the physical presence so much. We all do, and our family is so small. Jerry was the eldest of eleven children, so I am sure that your sister has a lot of support. Even though it's not the same as having Jerry, there is strength, and some solace, in numbers. It sounds like you are all very blessed. Continued blessings and thanks to you for these very wise and inspirational posts.

[Dearest]

My husband died 8/1/2012 and I haven't had a sign from him. Why dosen't he contact me? Was it because he was murdered? Please help me understand.

[cleodoggie]

Roberta-What a wonderful thing to happen. At over 3 years since Jim passed I continue to receive his signs. One of Jim's favorites seems tp beplaying with my garage dppr. You see he was a mechanic and a darned good one and he was in the garage alot working on a car or his 51 chev pick up. He doesn't do it as often now but on our anniversary he did. The songs are still a big sign. When his favorite song comes on I surely take it as a sign. As for the tears Bella I still have tears for Jim. Not as often or as much but I know the tears will always come for me thinking of what was lost. I really think for me my tears have kept me sane through my grief.

[Roberta Grimes]

My husband died 8/1/2012 and I haven't had a sign from him. Why dosen't he contact me? Was it because he was murdered? Please help me understand.

Oh Dearest, I am so sorry for your loss! Please consider yourself hugged by everyone here - what a terrible thing to go through, dear friend. We cannot know exactly why you haven't yet heard from your beloved husband, but here are the various possible reasons:

1) Three weeks is too soon. Although some people do begin to communicate almost immediately, most of our loved ones take longer to acclimate themselves to their new surroundings and to learn how to communicate. Many mediums won't even try to contact our loved ones for at least six months. So all that he may need is a little more time!

2) He may still be in hospital. People who have been very ill or have been traumatized near the time of their transition will sometimes go to sleep for a time and then wake up in a hospital setting. (Most hospitals there are breezy pavilions surrounded by flowers - quite beautiful!) Those who met your husband may have decided that he would be best served by this sort of gentle entrance to the next stage of his life.

3) He may have sent messages that you didn't recognize. Since our loved ones don't immediately know upon their graduation how to get through to us, they generally are taught what to do. And many of their signs are subtle things like birds, dragonflies, butterflies, flowers, pennies, songs, feathers, and what-have-you: they never sky-write in neon, unfortunately. It is important to stay alert, dear Dearest! (Heh - I guess that looks a little odd ;-).) And if you spot something that might remotely be a sign, thank him for it and ask him to do something even more recognizable.

4) Your grief may be blocking his communications. I realize how cruel this sounds, but strong negative emotions - and raw grief is the strongest - can act as an absolute barrier to communications from the dead. For that reason, as well as for your own well-being, it is important to work through your grief as best you can.

I am sure that he is fine, dear friend. He is perfectly loved and safe forever in everlasting arms. Please be comforted, and don't worry!

[Carol and Mikey]

My husband died 8/1/2012 and I haven't had a sign from him. Why dosen't he contact me? Was it because he was murdered? Please help me understand.

Dearest,
Welcome to the forums. First of all, I am so sorry for what you must be going through. This is tough stuff. You are also very early on in the grief journey. It is very very "raw" and intense I am sure. My son passed in an accident almost 5 years ago. Murder is a much tougher situation I feel. Much more difficult with more emotional factors I am sure. Please know your hubby is fine and in a Safe and Loving Place! Strong emotions, especially early on, can make communication more difficult I am told. He may not be able to reach your "vibration level" due to these heavy emotions. But he very well could be trying! He may go to someone else to give you a message. He may give a sign or dream to help you know he lives on and is at peace. I am told that forgiveness is generally achieved by the one who has passed over in a situation like this. It is us who are left behind that struggle so. Do remember that in any situation, forgiveness is for you. Totally for you. This type of thing however takes time and effort. At the pace you can do. So tough. I am so sorry you are in this situation. In life, things happen that we just cannot understand, but Mikey tells me that nothing goes unnoticed. My point with this is that the individual who took your husband's life will have to deal with this when they pass. It is their issue. Ours is to progress forward the best we can. Love is surrounding your husband, I am sure! I know he will try to help you the best he can. Do remember signs can be subtle.
Love and peace to you!
Carol and Mikey "in Spirit"

[Dearest]

Thank you so much, it looks so bleak right now The emptiness that I feel inside can be so unbearable at time's, He was the love of my life, best friend. We celebrated our 14yr anniversary in feb. I feel as if I'm dying inside.

Dearest,
Welcome to the forums. First of all, I am so sorry for what you must be going through. This is tough stuff. You are also very early on in the grief journey. It is very very "raw" and intense I am sure. My son passed in an accident almost 5 years ago. Murder is a much tougher situation I feel. Much more difficult with more emotional factors I am sure. Please know your hubby is fine and in a Safe and Loving Place! Strong emotions, especially early on, can make communication more difficult I am told. He may not be able to reach your "vibration level" due to these heavy emotions. But he very well could be trying! He may go to someone else to give you a message. He may give a sign or dream to help you know he lives on and is at peace. I am told that forgiveness is generally achieved by the one who has passed over in a situation like this. It is us who are left behind that struggle so. Do remember that in any situation, forgiveness is for you. Totally for you. This type of thing however takes time and effort. At the pace you can do. So tough. I am so sorry you are in this situation. In life, things happen that we just cannot understand, but Mikey tells me that nothing goes unnoticed. My point with this is that the individual who took your husband's life will have to deal with this when they pass. It is their issue. Ours is to progress forward the best we can. Love is surrounding your husband, I am sure! I know he will try to help you the best he can. Do remember signs can be subtle.
Love and peace to you!
Carol and Mikey "in Spirit"

[Roberta Grimes]

Thank you so much, it looks so bleak right now The emptiness that I feel inside can be so unbearable at time's, He was the love of my life, best friend. We celebrated our 14yr anniversary in feb. I feel as if I'm dying inside.

Oh precious Dearest, we all grieve with you! It is terrible to be in such deep grief, and I know that right now it seems that you will never see the end of it. But I promise you that it will get better, dear friend. The gloom will lift gradually, if you will allow it to happen. And meanwhile, please treat yourself with the tenderness and patience that you would be showing him in similar circumstances - please don't be hard on yourself! Don't let it matter what others think, and eliminate from your life for awhile anyone who seems to bring you down emotionally. You are hurting, and you need time to begin to heal. But you are not dying at all! Your beloved and your guides are all trying to help you. We here want to help you, too. As empty and alone as you feel right now, you are in fact surrounded by patient and all-encompassing love, dear beloved Dearest!

[Fasaga]

Thank you so much, it looks so bleak right now The emptiness that I feel inside can be so unbearable at time's, He was the love of my life, best friend. We celebrated our 14yr anniversary in feb. I feel as if I'm dying inside.

We are all standing beside you Dearest, if ever you need a shoulder or just want to vent, we are here for you.

[Carol and Mikey]

Sending much love and strength to you on this difficult journey. May peace come to you. Please surround yourself with good loving support. We are here for you always as well! This is a very gradual process and I know loving energy will surround you. Heaven understands your pain.
Sending as much loving strength as I can!
Carol

[Bella]

Dearest,
Losing a soul mate is indeed horrific, as I lost the love of my life in early May. I have found much evidence to suggest that our loved ones communicate more easily with us through dreams, or in the hypnogogic state, which is between awake and asleep. This communication more easily occurs because while we sleep, we are freed from our anguish, fear, grief and dense bodies. I have found that communication with my hubby occurred in the afternoon when I took a nap, as I was not so sleepy that I went into deep sleep. Rather, upon seeing him, I was startled and realized I was fully awake. My eyes were closed, I saw him on the left side of my visual field, and stared at him until he faded. It was like nothing I had ever seen before. I would recommend taking an afternoon nap, and I think that this might initiate communication. My hubby passed May 3rd, and I saw him on May 29th, so it was about three weeks later. I had, by the way, fallen asleep to a pleasant recording, that of Roberta's interview describing the beauty of the afterlife, so my vibrations were high enough at that time to facilitate my hubby's entrance into my energy field. I hope something like this will work for you.