Wonder if there is a meaning in this?

[cleodoggie]

Hi everyone i am new to posting here. My wonderful husband Jim passed away on April 17, 2009 my youngest daughter's birthday. Do any of you think there is a hidden meaning in his passing on this day? i keep thinking he passed on this day so she would never forget him. Well any comments would be appreciated. Chris

[Fasaga]

Hi everyone i am new to posting here. My wonderful husband Jim passed away on April 17, 2009 my youngest daughter's birthday. Do any of you think there is a hidden meaning in his passing on this day? i keep thinking he passed on this day so she would never forget him. Well any comments would be appreciated. Chris

Hi Chris, welcome aboard.
There are no coincidences in life, I would say that the dates corresponding has created an eternal bond, beyond the physical being, between your daughter and her father that will live on with them both.

[cleodoggie]

I must be getting the silent treatment......no one seems to find meaning in this? Or is it because I am new?

[WWE LOVER]

I must be getting the silent treatment......no one seems to find meaning in this? Or is it because I am new?

It's not because you are new. I created quite a stir when I first joined.

A lot of the posters here are inexperienced in afterlife matters, so if questions arise where they don't feel comfortable in offering an opinion, they will defer to the experts of the site.

Regarding your question, my experience in afterlife matters is limited as well. But what Fasaga has told you is consistent with what the admins say, along with other experts such as Mikey (Carol's son).

The last thing people here would want to do to you is to make you feel unwelcomed. So welcome aboard.

[Andrew]

I must be getting the silent treatment......no one seems to find meaning in this? Or is it because I am new?

Welcome Cleo! I'm sorry - you'll have to be patient with us. Our community has grown extensively in the last few months and, as a result, there are many new members, threads, and conversations that need tending to. Not to mention that all the staff (including myself) have day jobs! It's not that we are against answering your questions - we've just had no time! We're glad you've joined us though.

As for your question about dates: as Fasaga says above, there are no coincidences when it comes to spiritual matters. Things that appear to be coincidences at first glance are actually signs from Spirit. I can certainly believe that your husband would have chosen (probably before his birth) to pass on your daughter's birthday to help her remember him, but could you please post some more details?

Specifically, I am interested in how old your daughter was at the time, what she thinks of this "coincidence," and how your husband died (i.e. was it quick, or was he ill for a while)? Please only share what you are comfortable posting, but these details will help us assess the situation more clearly, so that we can give you a more definitive answer.

Typically, when people keep thinking that something is a sign, like you do, it is because a deceased love one (or a spirit guide) is impressing that thought on them. So, you could keep coming back to this thought, because your husband is trying to alert you of the fact that this was a pre-planned sign.

[Birki]

Welcome cleodoggie! I agree with all of the above, there are no coincidences, and it you think it is a sign, then it is! I am also interested in knowing more about your husband and daughter. Did they have any other special connections (apart from the obvious of being father and daughter)?

[cleodoggie]

Ok here goes....My daughter was 31 when Jim died. He was a victim of Agent Orange and he was ill on and off all our married life. As far as a connection between the two she is very much like her Dad in personality. Our other daughter has a personality more like me. After he died there were many many signs but my daughter the one whose birthday he died on had a visit from him shortly after he passed. She told me about it but told me she was crazy or maybe it was her imagination. i told her i believed her and i do. Right before he passed he told me he was talking to her and i told him she was at work that I could call her for him and he said no she's right here and he pointed over my shoulder. At the the time I found that peculuer but i was so upset by the thought of losing him that i just passed it by.

[Carol and Mikey]

Cleodoggie,
Welcome to the forums! Sorry there was a delay in responses to your question. I wish I could retire from my job and do more of this, but that is not in the cards for awhile!
I too know there is no such thing as a coincidence! We are all interconnected. Mikey (our son who is in Heaven) was born the same month as me being only 2 days apart, and he passed over the same month as his dad's birthday only 4 days apart. I always felt there was something to this. Mikey tells me these connections are often shown in numbers on earth. (Months and dates are by numbers.) When numbers align, there is a connection of sorts. (I personally have never got into this subject, but many are into it big time.) In Heaven, connections are so very strong. On earth when there is a correlation with numbers, it can represent a strong connection / relationship soul to soul. Mikey does say that no one should "feel left out" if this does not occur for them. It is just one way that this type of connection is shown. As we know, there are many other ways that our loved ones give us signs to let us know how much they love us and continue to care about us while we are here on earth!
Carol and Mikey "in Spirit"

[poeticblue]

I must be getting the silent treatment......no one seems to find meaning in this? Or is it because I am new?

Only reason I dont reply sometimes is cause I feel like I talk too much But I'm feeling talkative today. There is absolutley meaning in this. There is meaning in alot of things that we just shrug off as coicidence. I've had alot of things happen to me where I would sit there thinking to myself "man what are the odds?" or "boy I sure was lucky". Luck had nothing to do with it. Neither does the odds. Its what was meant to be. Thats how it was planned. Simple as that. Welcomeeeeeeeeee

[poeticblue]

And I guess I had better give a really good example about things not being "coincidences" and that its all part of our plan.

My daughter and I were homeless getting 1 meal from a women's shelter and sometimes sleeping in our car. Long story short, it was a Sunday morning and a preacher was talking on the radio. He was talking about the holidays coming up and how some people at this time may not have anywhere to go. He said that there is someone right now listening to this feeling hopeless and in despair. He said "maybe you are in a situation that you feel you can't get out of... or maybe you have no where to go or no one to turn to". He said "but just hold on!" "Just keep going!" He said "God is looking out for you and that soon a change is coming!" I thought to myself is he talking to me? I started to cry. I really felt like he was talking to me.

So I kept going like he said. I dried my tears and kept applying to every job imaginable just thinking about what that preacher had said on the radio. About 4 months later I got hired by a great company..making great income.. have my own house.. And almost a year and a half later I'm still going on strong. Just bought a brand new car. Was that message I heard on the radio coincidence? I think not my friend. Was your husbands passing on your daughters birthday a coincidence? Certainly not! Although it may have been traumatizing for you and others, this was all according to plan!

When your daughter celebrates her birthday she will also be able to celebrate her father as well But not for his death. For his life! You see how absolutely wonderful that is? You ever hear about those people at funerals talking about they don't want to talk about how so and so died but they want to talk about how they lived? I recommend that every time it is your daughters birthday you do just that!! Remember this! I hope this makes sense