still so many question

[Nadine510]

i know i must come up with some of the goofiest questions but please bear with me i am mourning the loss of my boyfriend and father, it has been a rough few months to say the very least, it seems i ask the same questions sometimes but i guess i just want to be re-assured of things i am sorry for this.
but the question i have right now is...... i dont know to much about re-incarnation to tell you the truth but i was assured by just about everyone that when i pass on one day i will be re-united with my boyfried i will see him again almost a guarentee, But, what if he decides to reincarnate into something or someone else then he wont be there when i die?
i am so lost when it comes to the afterlife and i really shouldnt be i been reading and reading since my boyfriend passed maybe i am reading to much , i get myself confused and all, i have so many questions...... but right now the one that comes to mind is if he incarnates into something or someone else that means he wont be there to be with me when i pass on? i typed it as a sentence but i am asking a question? lol sorry

[Annie]

I was listening to a seance the other day with Leslie Flint, and one of the sitters had the exact same concern. The spirit speaking said that some people take years to reincarnate, while some do it in an hour. He didn't really seem to address her concerns about not being able to reunite though, which I thought was odd. But I will say that from what I've read and heard, while it is possible to reincarnate at anytime, most spirits will wait to rejoin their loved ones. Your boyfriend and father want to see you just as much as you want to see them. Also, most people want to take a nice long rest before jumping into another life, I know I would. Most spirits are having such a great time in the Summerland and talk about not wanting to reincarnate anytime soon. I'm not sure exactly what it is that triggers us to want to come to earth again, but I definitely think it takes a while to get us to that point.

[Andrew]

Hi VioletRose! This is a great question! Annie is absolutely correct in saying that, from our perspective, it appears as though most people do wait for their living loved ones to move on and join them before they reincarnate. Of course, from their perspective, nothing really seems like waiting. Since there is no concrete time, as we know it, there is really no waiting, no boredom, and no rushing!

You see, it's not really a problem to them because forty, or seventy, or even one hundred years can pass in the blink of an eye. So, if your boyfriend has to wait another sixty years for you to return, it's not anything like it would be here.

Now here's the twist: when we incarnate here, a good portion of our self actually stays over there. Remember that there is no actual time, so this makes a lot of sense: when there is no time, and you have been to two different places (earth and the afterlife), then you can easily be in both at the same time.

Either way, you WILL see your father and boyfriend again. When you pass on, they'll be waiting to guide you into the ultimate joy and bliss!

[Nadine510]

Thank you both for your reply, i really appreciate it........ you know i thought with reading so many books on the afterlife and all that maybe i could just move on a little quicker but even with all that and i believe it all, i still am really going thru a tough time, i just miss my father and boyfriend terribly, Really terribly.

thank you again for your quick responses

[Andrew]

No problem, dear Nadine510! I cannot imagine the pain you must be growing through, but I hope that our answer bring you some comfort, knowing that your father and boyfriend and really more alive than we are, and that you will all be reunited again!