I know that it's a very popular paradigm to view our lives as an opportunity to learn lessons. But I don't buy into the idea that we have to choose unpleasant experiences to learn something. As I mentioned on another post, if I want to teach my kids not to play with matches, I don't set their rooms on fire.
Jesus/Yeshua taught us, "As you believe it shall be done to you. It shall be done to you according to your faith." My concern is that if we believe that our lives need to be filled with unpleasant lessons, we'll get exactly what we believe -- unpleasant life lessons.
And if it's our spiritual guides who are scripting unpleasant life lessons for us, fire them! Get some new guides that are upbeat and understand that learning should be challenging, but also joyous. Take charge and re-write your script with them. As long as we are looking for the greatest Good for everyone and not just for our self-centered desires, why not?