After a lot of back-and-forth with members and friends of this website - thanks, everyone, for your thoughtful help! - we have decided upon a new policy concerning suicide threats and folks who seem suicidal. This is a serious problem for us because people thinking of killing themselves will often come here seeking information. To be frank, it was a worry for me even before The Fun of Dying went to print because people I respected who read the manuscript almost uniformly said that I was making the afterlife seem too appealing and I was likely to provoke some early exits. Having been approached after a speaking engagement by two desperate mothers whose children had killed themselves, I hated to say anything in The Fun of Dying that might make families of suicide victims feel even worse; but in the end, even its publisher insisted that the book contain strong language about the horrendous future that suicides too often face.
Deciding what course to take on this website was not easy. Everyone had a different opinion! In the end, it was left to me as the only active administrator, and I have decided that for now counseling suicidal people should not happen here. Not only are we not trained counselors, and not only is trying to help suicidal members tremendously disruptive; but it seems to me that our important work here has become the building of a body of content to serve as a central resource for information on reality and the afterlife. Suicide-counseling threads detract from that wonderful mission.
The banner in the upper right corner of this website leads to a page in which we tell people that if they are suicidal they should seek immediate help elsewhere. It has taken me more than a month of fretting to put together just these few words! Originally we thought that we would do a whole page with links to suicide-help hotlines and websites; we also thought that we might build some links to existing suicide-related content on this website. We discussed my perhaps writing a page with details about all the things that we know can go wrong. But in the end I opted not to do anything which could distract a potential suicide from the all-important mission of finding local help, and quickly.
All of this is not to say that we shouldn't try to help members who are simply bummed. After all, a big part of better understanding reality is finding out that we are here to learn spiritually and discovering how our minds build our reality, and in helping newcomers work through all of this our members have built some extraordinary content. We want to help people who are not troubled enough to be suicidal. To that end, our beloved Brett (WWE LOVER) offered to begin a thread on coping, and we have made his thread sticky so it will remain at the top of the first page of this section.
You may not agree with these decisions. Or you may want changes in the text that comes up when you click on our "Thinking of Suicide?" banner. If you have suggestions to offer, rather than posting them here please email me at email@example.com and let me know. If you have questions or thoughts to offer, of course, please don't hesitate to post them here. Again, thank you all for your help and understanding!