I wonder if this dream represents the afterlife

[Bella]

I wanted to share a dream that my 20-year-old son had recently. Every night I pray that my husband will show me how happy he is and where he is. My son has had three dreams with my husband so far. Last night my son was flying in his dream (this is normal) and asked my husband (taking charge of his dream) to show him where he was. He was taken to a place where the colors were very bright - pinks and blues - and there was a castle. My husband was dressed in white and he could see him from a distance. It was a wedding and there were many guests (my son said he did not know anyone there). There was a bride (my son was sure she was not me), and my son thinks my husband was getting married to her. My son found himself with his friends in a flash and tried to return to this castle (which he described as like a fairytale land), so he asked to be taken there again, but everything went grey, and suddenly he found that his bed was shaking, as there was something going through his head and chest. The bed and the top of his head and chest were vibrating. He woke up and came to tell me this at 5a.m. When he awakened me, frightened about the vibrations, I realized that I didn't have my usual morning depression and heaviness. Now, it's several hours later and I am thinking rationally about this and wondering what it means. I am still not feeling my usual heavy body depression and morning sobbing. I am trying to just focus on the fact that he is in a beautiful place and he is happy.
http://www.intuitive-connections.net/2003/spirit_world1.htm
According to an article on this site, there are marriages in heaven and the spouses might be different. When I read it, I mentioned it to my son, so this might be why he had this dream. The author of the article cites 19th century accounts for this information. What do you think?

[Carol and Mikey]

Bella,
Mikey tells me there are no marriages in Heaven. Love is the basis for all soul connections. But there is no "gender" there per say. Mikey tells me there are many celebrations in Heaven, but getting married is not one of them. So who knows....but this is what Mikey tells me. (I actually have never heard of marriage in Heaven either.)
Carol and Mikey "in Spirit"

[Bella]

Thank you so much, Carol and Mikey. You are always so kind to think about these things and respond. Maybe this was a celebration of some kind. I definitely have a love soul connection with my hubby. I had never heard of marriage in heaven either. I guess our imaginations can impact astral travel as well.

[poeticblue]

Maybe this was a celebration of some kind. I definitely have a love soul connection with my hubby. I had never heard of marriage in heaven either. I guess our imaginations can impact astral travel as well.

Bella,

You pretty much said what I was going to tell you. Thats exactly what it was. A celebration! And the thoughts and emotions that your son had impacted the scenery and scenrio. This is what happens in the astral plane. I do it every night. With much practice I think your son will have the ability to actually cross over into the afterlife (lucidly) and be able to distinguish whether he is making up a beautiful dream or if he really is in the afterlife. I've had some dreams that were very beautiful but I knew that I was not in the afterlife. One small thing would always give it away. Or maybe he was in the afterlife but mis-understood what was happening. Who knows.. Sounds very special though :)

[Bella]

Thanks so much, Poeticblue. You have so much experience with this and I do think you're right about being able to impact the content of the dream. He sensed that my hubby was giving the message that he was happy. He might have seen him in white. He then filled in the rest with what details he could understand. I used to remember flying in dreams, and I would like to do that again. Both my sons are able to fly and see these bright colors, which I used to see but can no longer see. It was very special because when I woke up yesterday I felt better, and I know my husband visits when I wake up feeling good, or at least, less depressed. Before two months ago, the high point of my day was seeing my hubby, hearing his voice, listening to his observations, so the days are really flat now. If he visits at night, I feel the difference. I have always loved this Matthew Arnold poem, but now I hear it all the time.LONGING

Come to me in my dreams, and then
By day I shall be well again!
For then the night will more than pay
The hopeless longing of the day.

Come, as thou cam'st a thousand times,
A messenger from radiant climes,
And smile on thy new world, and be
As kind to all the rest as me.

Or, as thou never cam'st in sooth,
Come now, and let me dream it truth;
And part my hair, and kiss my brow,
And say: My love! why suff'rest thou?

Come to me in my dreams, and then
By day I shall be well again!
For then the night will more than pay
The hopeless longing of the day.

Matthew Arnold
(From 'Faded Leaves')

[poeticblue]

Very beautiful Bella. Mikey told me that Rizwan and I had a previous spiritual connection which is why I am so easily able to communicate with him all the time. That would make sense because him and I weren't all that close on the boards (we replied to eachothers posts but never PM'd) and yet when he died I just about felt like I could have taken myself with him. It was so unexplainable. I didn't know him personally. I knew that he made a difference in my life by saying the things he said to me.. but I really didn't know him. Yet everything turned black when I heard the news. I had never felt such a devastating feeling in my life. I would have rather gone through labor and gotten every single tooth pulled that day then to hear that Rizwan killed himself.

I receive so many signs and visitations from him every single day. So according to Mikey it is because we previously had a spiritual connection.. I'm not sure if he meant in the afterlife or in a previous life but there ya go!

Anyways I am saying this because you make me want to post some songs that always play when Rizwan visits me. I'm saying allllll the time these same 3 songs play. Plus I see dragonfly’s everyday now. I never use to see dragonflies. My buddy is in heaven without me :(

[Bella]

Wow, I didn't know you felt this way about him. It's funny because I reread his posts and I could understand where he was coming from. He was definitely an old soul. I guess you have to just take comfort in this new relationship you have with him. What are the names of the three songs, if you don't mind telling me (unless you've already said that.)? Poeticblue, I know it hurts that he is without you, but remember that heaven is around us, only some vibrations away, as I keep telling myself. Your post just made me feel so much better. Thank you for opening your heart. Sometimes I feel so alone with my pain. Thank you Spirit, for Carol and Mikey's presence as well.

[poeticblue]

Wow, I didn't know you felt this way about him. It's funny because I reread his posts and I could understand where he was coming from. He was definitely an old soul. I guess you have to just take comfort in this new relationship you have with him. What are the names of the three songs, if you don't mind telling me (unless you've already said that.)? Poeticblue, I know it hurts that he is without you, but remember that heaven is around us, only some vibrations away, as I keep telling myself. Your post just made me feel so much better. Thank you for opening your heart. Sometimes I feel so alone with my pain. Thank you Spirit, for Carol and Mikey's presence as well.

Bella,

I didn't know I felt that way either until he killed himself (I know that may sound weird but hear me out). I blamed myself for maybe not saying "thank you" as much to him or maybe going more in detail with him about his posts. Very strange feeling that day. I think its because I saw a lot of myself in him and wish he could have stayed so that I could have someone I could relate to more on here. He was suicidal but he still had some hope ya know. Plus he was really caring, nice, and smart. He actually wanted to listen to other people and learn. I learned a lot about how suicide effects people. I couldn't truly understand it until then. The pain was.. ughhh..

Yes I will share some with you when I get home. I'm about to get off of work and I don't want to rush.

[poeticblue]

Bella,

Here are the songs that Rizwan plays for me at least once a day:

Tears in Heaven

Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you feel the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
Cause I know I don't belong here in heaven...

Would you hold my hand
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you help me stand
If I saw you in heaven?
Ill find my way through night and day
Cause I know I just can't stay here in heaven...

Time can bring you down, time can bend your knees
Time can break your heart, have you begging please...begging please

Beyond the door there's peace Im sure
And I know there will be no more tears in heaven...

Would you know my name
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you feel the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
Cause I know I don't belong here in heaven...

Next song... When I asked Rizwan to send me a sign to let me know he was there one day, this song played right after I asked. I hadn't heard this song in years and it was one of my favorite songs to listen to...

Iris (From the City of Angels Soundtrack)

And I'd give up forever to touch you
Cause I know that you feel me somehow
You're the closest to heaven that I'll ever be
And I don't want to go home right now

And all I can taste is this moment
And all I can breathe is your life
Cause sooner or later it's over
I just don't want to miss you tonight

And I don't want the world to see me
Cause I don't think that they'd understand
When everything's made to be broken
I just want you to know who I am

And you can't fight the tears that ain't coming
Or the moment of truth in your lies
When everything feels like the movies
Yeah you bleed just to know you're alive

And I don't want the world to see me
Cause I don't think that they'd understand
When everything's made to be broken
I just want you to know who I am

I don't want the world to see me
Cause I don't think that they'd understand
When everything's made to be broken
I just want you to know who I am

I just want you to know who I am
I just want you to know who I am
I just want you to know who I am
I just want you to know who I am


Its as if every song he sends me is showing me regret for what he did and that the real him is not who he truly was on earth (the suicidal him)... and to forgive him...

The last song I will tell you about is the song Rizwan sends alot. The funny story about it is, I told everybody that I had heard a song from Rizwan the day after I heard he killed himself. And WWE Lover asked me if it was the "Heaven is a place on earth" song. I told him no it wasn't. It was some other song that I've never heard before talking about heaven. But then it seems after that day all I ever heard was the "Heaven is a place on earth" song. Whereas before I never would hear that song. That song plays at least once a day to me on the radio lol.. Just today I asked Rizwan to send me a song on the radio before I got to work. Literally right after I requested him to send me a song, "Heaven is a place on earth" played on the radio. I laughed with such joy to the point I almost cried. I simply said "Thank you!"

Heaven is a place on Earth
Oh, baby do you know what that's worth?
Oh, Heaven is a place on Earth.
They say in Heaven, love comes first
We'll make Heaven a place on Earth
Oh, Heaven is a place on Earth

When the night falls down,
I wait for you, and to come around
And the world's alive
With the sound of kids on the street outside
When you walk into the room
You pull me close and we start to move
And we're spinnin' with the stars above
And you lift me up
In the wave of love

Oh, baby do you know what that's worth?
Oh Heaven is a place on Earth
They say in Heaven, love comes first
We'll make Heaven a place on Earth
Oh, Heaven is a place on Earth

When I feel alone, I reach for you and to bring me home
When I'm lost at sea
I hear your voice, and it carries me
In this world we're just beginning
To understand the miracle of living
Baby, I was afraid before
I'm not afraid, any more

Oh, baby do you know what that's worth?
Oh, Heaven is a place on Earth
The say in Heaven, love comes first
We'll make Heaven a place on earth
Oh, Heaven is a place on Earth

In this world we're just beginning
To understand the miracle of living
Baby I was afraid before
I'm not afraid, any more

Oh, baby do you know what that's worth?
Oh, Heaven is a place on Earth
They say in Heaven, love comes first
We'll make Heaven a place on Earth
Oh, Heaven is a place on Earth

There is another song that plays alot when I think about him. I remember thinking about Rizwan so hard one night and listening to Pandoras radio station on my phone. I got lost in this one song that was playing. It was purley instrumental with no lyrics. And I just thought about Rizwan and what had happend while I was listening to this song. Then I asked him to send me a song or a sign letting me know he was there. I just so happen to look down at my phone to see what song I was listening to the whole time I had been thinking about him.. sure enough it was called "A Piece of Heaven".

[jenniechan]

I loved these songs. Thanks for sharing these songs Bella and Poeticblue.

[Bella]

Thanks for posting these, Poeticblue (I love those songs too) and thanks for your comment Jenniechan. I once woke up with a song - one that my husband and I always listened to - playing in my head, and that morning I felt wonderful, so I attribute that feeling to something my hubby gave me with that song, which had a powerful message. What puzzles me though is how a song playing on pandora, or on the radio, can be from a loved one. How does that actually work? Wouldn't that be difficult to accomplish for a soul who has crossed over? I wonder how the mechanics of that actually works. Maybe Roberta or Carol and Mikey would know that?

[Roberta Grimes]

Thanks for posting these, Poeticblue (I love those songs too) and thanks for your comment Jenniechan. I once woke up with a song - one that my husband and I always listened to - playing in my head, and that morning I felt wonderful, so I attribute that feeling to something my hubby gave me with that song, which had a powerful message. What puzzles me though is how a song playing on pandora, or on the radio, can be from a loved one. How does that actually work? Wouldn't that be difficult to accomplish for a soul who has crossed over? I wonder how the mechanics of that actually works. Maybe Roberta or Carol and Mikey would know that?

I have wondered about this too, dear Bella. We don't know how they manage most of the things that they routinely do as communication signs! How do they produce a sudden whiff of one particular scent? How do they make pennies appear in front of us? Or birds and butterflies act strangely? Nobody really seems to know, although perhaps Mikey can give us some insights.

That having been said, I wonder whether some of these signs might not be in your mind. The scents, for example: would other people in the room smell them? I think that some instances of music on the radio involve the dead literally overlaying the song on your mind, or perhaps changing the frequency of your radio; I think it's possible, in other words, that everybody listening to that Pandora channel at that moment might not be hearing it. (I have read about more than one instance of someone turning on a car with its radio set to a news or talk station, and hearing that chosen important song before regular programming resumed.) As the King of Siam would say, "It is a puzzlement!"

[poeticblue]

I have wondered about this too, dear Bella. We don't know how they manage most of the things that they routinely do as communication signs! How do they produce a sudden whiff of one particular scent? How do they make pennies appear in front of us? Or birds and butterflies act strangely? Nobody really seems to know, although perhaps Mikey can give us some insights.

That having been said, I wonder whether some of these signs might not be in your mind. The scents, for example: would other people in the room smell them? I think that some instances of music on the radio involve the dead literally overlaying the song on your mind, or perhaps changing the frequency of your radio; I think it's possible, in other words, that everybody listening to that Pandora channel at that moment might not be hearing it. (I have read about more than one instance of someone turning on a car with its radio set to a news or talk station, and hearing that chosen important song before regular programming resumed.) As the King of Siam would say, "It is a puzzlement!"

Thank you Roberta. I'm not sure how these things happen either. I'm just glad they happen. All I know is, I didn't start hearing these songs until Rizwan died. Can't be a coicidence and I'm sticking to that. :)

I'm not sure how that works either.. but apparently many people receive songs from their past loved ones via radio, electronics, computers. Actually since they consist of pure energy, it would make sense that they would use electronics to communicate since its another source of energy.

[mokandi]

The songs on the radio confuse me. Is that meant to imply that the dj is playing another song but you are hearing a different one?

[Fasaga]

The songs on the radio confuse me. Is that meant to imply that the dj is playing another song but you are hearing a different one?

Hi Mokandi

It's meant that a series of events and timing coincide to create the experience, part of which includes the thoughts and memory prompts of the observer. The song heard is the song played. These things are often easily written off as mere coincidence by the skeptics and analysts amongst us, but so many things physical, spiritual and mental need to coincide to fulfill the experience it really needs to have external orchestration involved to happen. Electrical Energy seems to be one of the strongest and most effective mediums for this to occur.

Some will try and justify with statistics, from my personal experience with signs and statistics, passing under a street light as it goes out is no big deal. When it happens a second time that's a "coincidence", for me now, over the past 4 years since this has started happening to me, I have had this happen over 800 times, even in multiples of lights in a row. The odds of that have to be incalculable.

[poeticblue]

I can make street lights go out all of the time while walking or driving. I always use to joke with my friends and say "Hey, watch me make that light flicker" :p

I read that people who can manipulate electricity like that, should go in the profession of healing with their hands. I don't think I'll be doing that here on earth. I'll save that for the afterlife. I know my ex-boyfriend had very bad pains in his back and his chiropractor recommended surgery. I started to massage his back everyday. He returned to his chiropractor and he asked my ex-boyfriend what he's been doing because his back is almost completely better and that he might not need surgery anymore.

Ughh.... I should have made him pay me for fixing his back!!!!! :p

[Carol and Mikey]

Don't you love these music signs of communication! They are my favorite and the occurrence of this with Mikey has been absolutely incredible! Mikey tells me that Fasaga is right on! I have asked Mikey how in the heck does this work? He says that it takes Devine coordination and intervention to make it happen. They have great ability with their energy! Hearing songs in "your head" when you wake up or just suddenly out of the blue is also them! Mikey does this with me almost every morning. I will then ask him with the pedulum what the message is with the song and he tells me! None of this is coincidence! It is a great way for them to communicate. Mikey says it is a way for them to directly talk to a loved one with words through the song. Enjoy these signs of communication! It IS the real deal according to Mikey! :)
Carol and Mikey "in Spirit"

[Bella]

Don't you love these music signs of communication! They are my favorite and the occurrence of this with Mikey has been absolutely incredible! Mikey tells me that Fasaga is right on! I have asked Mikey how in the heck does this work? He says that it takes Devine coordination and intervention to make it happen. They have great ability with their energy! Hearing songs in "your head" when you wake up or just suddenly out of the blue is also them! Mikey does this with me almost every morning. I will then ask him with the pedulum what the message is with the song and he tells me! None of this is coincidence! It is a great way for them to communicate. Mikey says it is a way for them to directly talk to a loved one with words through the song. Enjoy these signs of communication! It IS the real deal according to Mikey! :)
Carol and Mikey "in Spirit"

Yes, my husband had played a song in my head for me - one that we used to listen to when we were first married, and it gave me a wonderful message that uplifted my spirits that day.
I also wanted to say to Mokandi, along these lines, and in keeping with this thread, that I have gained a bit more insight into the the afterlife and how the body feels. The past few years, I'd been obsessed with having my husband do squats, as I believe (and still do) that they are great for the lymphatic system. He could never do them. He'd been a soccer player, but lately his legs were weak. The other day I was on the phone with a spiritualist medium, telling her how I continued to seek proof that my husband was well. I guess she felt sorry for me, as she tuned in her energy for me. She said "Your husband is very well. He is saying "He can even do squats now. Does that mean anything to you?" This gave me tremendous comfort and really makes me think about the fact that we view them as beings of light when they seem to have bodies that are in great shape. It made me so happy. I thought you would like this too Mokandi.

[poeticblue]

Bella, I've been meaning to ask you this:

Are these multiple mediums you are going to or just one?

[mokandi]

I do like that Bella. Thank you.

[Fasaga]

Don't you love these music signs of communication! They are my favorite and the occurrence of this with Mikey has been absolutely incredible! Mikey tells me that Fasaga is right on! I have asked Mikey how in the heck does this work? He says that it takes Devine coordination and intervention to make it happen. They have great ability with their energy! Hearing songs in "your head" when you wake up or just suddenly out of the blue is also them! Mikey does this with me almost every morning. I will then ask him with the pedulum what the message is with the song and he tells me! None of this is coincidence! It is a great way for them to communicate. Mikey says it is a way for them to directly talk to a loved one with words through the song. Enjoy these signs of communication! It IS the real deal according to Mikey! :)
Carol and Mikey "in Spirit"

Wow, thanks Mikey and Carol for the vote of confidence, I must admit that sometimes my posts flow almost too freely.

[poeticblue]

Wow, thanks Mikey and Carol for the vote of confidence, I must admit that sometimes my posts flow almost too freely.

Show off :p

[Bella]

Bella, I've been meaning to ask you this:

Are these multiple mediums you are going to or just one?

The medium who mentioned the squats was just someone I had been speaking with on the phone, whom I had never met, and who did not know my last name. I was explaining to her why I wanted to take her mediumship class. She was not giving me a reading. I had gone to two other mediums. They each said consistent things and introduced new information, most of it very valid. I did not spend too much money. One reading was a radio reading and was free. Then I went in person and he did not know he'd spoken with me, the same person on the phone. He said many of the same things, thus the consistency.

[Roberta Grimes]

I wanted to share a dream that my 20-year-old son had recently. Every night I pray that my husband will show me how happy he is and where he is. My son has had three dreams with my husband so far. Last night my son was flying in his dream (this is normal) and asked my husband (taking charge of his dream) to show him where he was. He was taken to a place where the colors were very bright - pinks and blues - and there was a castle. My husband was dressed in white and he could see him from a distance. It was a wedding and there were many guests (my son said he did not know anyone there). There was a bride (my son was sure she was not me), and my son thinks my husband was getting married to her. My son found himself with his friends in a flash and tried to return to this castle (which he described as like a fairytale land), so he asked to be taken there again, but everything went grey, and suddenly he found that his bed was shaking, as there was something going through his head and chest. The bed and the top of his head and chest were vibrating. He woke up and came to tell me this at 5a.m. When he awakened me, frightened about the vibrations, I realized that I didn't have my usual morning depression and heaviness. Now, it's several hours later and I am thinking rationally about this and wondering what it means. I am still not feeling my usual heavy body depression and morning sobbing. I am trying to just focus on the fact that he is in a beautiful place and he is happy.
http://www.intuitive-connections.net/2003/spirit_world1.htm
According to an article on this site, there are marriages in heaven and the spouses might be different. When I read it, I mentioned it to my son, so this might be why he had this dream. The author of the article cites 19th century accounts for this information. What do you think?

Dear Bella, I am sorry not to have carefully read the post that started this thread. You have asked for my thoughts, and here they are! I think that what your son had was in fact a communication dream - I have flown in a communication dream as well, and his dream otherwise had normal physics. Is the dream still vivid in his mind, like a genuine memory? If yes, then it was a communication dream for certain. Some further thoughts:

1) What Mikey says above is precisely what I understand to be true: there are lots of celebrations in heaven, but no weddings. Jesus is right in saying that in heaven we neither marry nor are given in marriage. So your son misinterpreted that scene a little bit, and your husband is still waiting for you ;-)!

2) Your husband was likely wearing "spirit robes," which are the sort of long tunics that angels wear and are generally pale pastel or white and dimly glow. This scene must have been beautiful!

3) When everything "went gray," your son was leaving the higher vibratory level of the Summerland. People often report that they seem to be in a gray fog for a bit, which I suspect might be a way to protect them from the outer darkness level that apparently lies between. Why he had to leave so abruptly it is impossible to say, but it could have been nothing more complicated than a loud earth-noise or other disruption in his sleep.

4) That vibration that he felt in his body upon what was apparently a rather hurried and haphazard re-entry also is commonly reported. We leave and return through our chest or through the top of our head - not sure why he felt the vibration in both places, but since our astral bodies are not physical he could perhaps have quickly re-entered through both simultaneously. And he felt the vibration as if it were in his bed, but it was in fact his body that was vibrating a bit as it felt the re-entry of his astral body vibrating at the higher Summerland level and settling down.

5) The fact that you felt better that morning likely means that you were at that Summerland party, too! Perhaps your son's experience validated that for you on a subconscious level, which further affirmed that great experience and lightened your heart.

This is wonderful, dear Bella! Thank you so much for sharing it with us!!

[Bella]

Thank you so much for the wonderful, thorough response. I so appreciate it!!! Might my over soul have been at that celebration?

[poeticblue]

The medium who mentioned the squats was just someone I had been speaking with on the phone, whom I had never met, and who did not know my last name. I was explaining to her why I wanted to take her mediumship class. She was not giving me a reading. I had gone to two other mediums. They each said consistent things and introduced new information, most of it very valid. I did not spend too much money. One reading was a radio reading and was free. Then I went in person and he did not know he'd spoken with me, the same person on the phone. He said many of the same things, thus the consistency.

I was more concerned with the money aspect. I do not want you spending too much of your money to go to these mediums. You have your son who is gifted, Carol & Mikey, your husband who communicates with you all of the time, and the rest of us here! Priceless!! :)

[Bella]

I was more concerned with the money aspect. I do not want you spending too much of your money to go to these mediums. You have your son who is gifted, Carol & Mikey, your husband who communicates with you all of the time, and the rest of us here! Priceless!! :)

You are very kind to care about that and express it to me. Twice, the readings were free, twice they were very, very cheap, and once it was, I admit, expensive, but I was, at that time, a wreck, and needed it. I agree that my sons, especially the one who is trying to help me with the OBEs, and you guys, Carol and Mikey, are all such a blessing. I love you all. I hope we can meet soon, and I hope I can survive this. Every day is a struggle to get through, so I reread all the things that make me feel better in the morning, and pray that I can fend off daily attacks.

[Roberta Grimes]

Thank you so much for the wonderful, thorough response. I so appreciate it!!! Might my over soul have been at that celebration?

As I was hitting "Post" on my post above, it occurred to me that the whole scene could well have been a communication from your husband, letting you know symbolically that he loves you and is waiting for you. That was why it looked to your son like a wedding - that ultimate symbol of love. And since we often travel to the Summerland while our bodies sleep, it might not have been just your oversoul at that celebration, dear Bella - it might very well have been you yourself!