Our plan for our lives

[BrianForNow]

I believe wholeheartedly in reincarnation. I also believe that we have a certain plan for our lives before we get here. That plan changes as we see more opportunity to grow and learn, or as we see opportunities for others to grow through us. I believe that where I am in my life right now is not where I originally intended to be. I am married with 2 stepsons and 1 son. I was married before, but that marriage fell apart abruptly as the same time my current wife's previous marriage became abusive. We didn't know each other at the time, but soon after my divorce, we met in a South Carolina chat room on AOL. The only reason I was in a South Carolina chat room was that I had moved there after my divorce and time in the service was up. I feel I subconsiously changed my life path after hearing her cry for help. She was near suicide and her two sons would have surely been stuck with their abusive father. We met, fell in love immediately, married and moved to Pennsylvania. 10 years later we are still married, her sons are now 19 and 15 and doing well, and we have a wonderful 9 year old son together. I still wonder what my original plan for this life was had I not been contacted, but I will find that out soon enough. I also know that I was directed to Roberta's book and is site for a reason. I learned of her book by listening to a local radio station that I hardly ever listen to and caught the tail end of her conversation. I immediately ordered the book (took 3 months to arrive), read it in 2 days and came to this site. I'd like to hear from anyone else who had similar situations where their lives took unexpected turns.

[Roberta Grimes]

Hello BrianForNow! You're right - the evidence is overwhelming that we do in fact write lesson-plans for our lives. Together with others who will be in our lives (and we in theirs), and also with our guides and theirs, we plan all the major events - and also many minor events - as opportunities for spiritual learning. In reading your story, BrianForNow, what happened in your life and your wife's look like exactly the sorts of events that you would have planned into your lives - they don't look like accidents or coincidences at all! In fact, channeled beings have said that actual coincidences are so rare that we can assume that whatever seems to be a coincidence actually is a pre-planned event.

We don't plan our lives to be simple. Marrying the high school sweetheart, 2.3 kids, work in the local factory, bowling in the same league for 40 years, celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary together - that kind of life looks boring from a planning perspective! And while every life offers opportunities for learning, we tend to learn most about love and forgiveness when our capacity for both is tested. So we plan in illnesses, abusive relationships, ungrateful children, financial crises, divorces, chaos: we plan in learning experiences.

And often our guides have their hands full in setting us up to meet our pre-planned spouses. For example, I graduated from college and moved to NYC and then developed a sudden aversion to being there and a persistent wish to move to Boston. I found a job in Boston and found roommates and made the move... and three days after I arrived, my new roommates persuaded me to go with them to a mixer. When I walked into the room, I saw across it a very uncomfortable-looking man with a kind of halo around him - he was the only person I could see. I went over and engaged him in conversation, and in August we will celebrate our 39th wedding anniversary. I knew even that evening that I would be marrying him! And for another example, a young couple very dear to me who lived at opposite ends of the country met in a chat room because each of them happened to own the same kind of car - and I recall her sudden inexplicable obsession with this car type that I had never heard of, and which I now realize had been inspired in her mind by her guides because it was time for them to meet. They have been married for ten years now, and never has there been a more ideal marriage. Just two examples, BrianForNow, but such stories are the rule and not the exception. Don't they seem similar to your own story?

Dear friend, you are living your original life-plan! Perhaps you were prompted by your guides to hear me on the radio and then read my book and come here in part because they wanted you to know that now. They wanted you to stop wondering! I myself used to wonder how many people are off-track and how many are living their plans, but I have come to believe that even those who have strange, unlikely stories probably are living the plan that they intended. We are told that people who are off-track (as I was, briefly, in NYC) generally become unbearably edgy and restless and get repeated prompts from their guides to kinda get back on track. If you miss your planned meeting with a future spouse, or with someone else who will be important in your life, then they will keep trying to arrange new meetings. It is our guides' job to keep us on-plan, and they seem to do it mostly by putting nagging ideas in our minds.

Does this help you, BrianForNow? Please hug your wonderful wife and children for me - each of you is exactly where you should be!

[BrianForNow]

Thank you, Roberta for your wonderful and reaffirming response. It helps immensely to know that I have found a place where others have shared similar experiences to mine. B