Confused about the afterlife

[Nadine510]

:(I have never been so much into the afterlife until now. i did lose a boyfriend like 17 yrs ago due to lung cancer, i loved him and all but after he passed i cant say i was real into the afterlife , but now i have a boyfriend that i have been with 5 yrs, he was diagnosed with cancer several months ago and it has spread to his lungs, and its really weird but i almost feel obsessed with finding out about life after death, its such a weird topic because it is almost like noone really knows until they die , but yet i am driving myself crazy trying to find evidence of life after death. i read a few posts, not to many yet but on one of them someone mentioned about meditation, is this something anyone can do? i just dont know if i will be able to do this, is there a trick to this, or something you can do to practice this? i just wnt to know if i am ever going to see my boyfriend again, i hope i dont sound rediculus but i am really hurting right now, and just want some kind of clarification that one day i will be with him again.

[Roberta Grimes]

Welcome, Nadine510! Yes, meditation can work, but it will work best when you better understand what is really a tremendous subject. You will need to read further – on these forums and elsewhere – before you can internalize these truths. But after having spent a half-century studying nearly 200 years of afterlife evidence, I can tell you with absolute confidence that the following things are true:

1) It is impossible for our minds to die. The death of our bodies is just an illusion! Everyone that you ever have loved is alive and healthy and continues to love you.

2) The afterlife where our dead loved ones are is solid and earth-like and full of flowers. Seems too good to be true, doesn’t it? And it is all right here! It took me years of reading quantum-physics-for-dummies books before I could understand how this is possible, but at least seven levels of afterlife reality exist precisely where we are now.

3) This earth-life is just a brief year in preschool. The afterlife is our real life. As people arrive there, they often look around and slap their heads and say some variant of, “Wow! I forgot! This is real life!” All our loved ones who went before us are there to hug us and laugh with us and welcome us to an idyllic reality that has all of earth’s positives but none of its problems.

There is just as much to learn about the afterlife levels and how the post-death process works as there is to learn about life on earth, so you have your work cut out for you! I have found that the more I have learned about the afterlife, the more excited I have been to learn more. This research is addictive because the afterlife turns out to be so extraordinary, and because all the evidence fits together so well. You won’t take my word for any of this until you have done some research yourself, but please take my word for these two facts:

1) Afterlife research is well worth doing because you will find that it is wonderfully, believably true.

2) Knowing the truth about death and the afterlife will make your present life so much better!

[Nadine510]

okay where should i start? like do you have book suggestions, or other websites? thank you so much for replying! i really appreciate it

[Roberta Grimes]

Hello Nadine! I know that folks here will pounce on me for recommending my own book ;-), but if we were talking privately I would urge you to read The Fun of Dying - Find Out What Really Happens Next!. It is the only book of which I am aware that summarizes 150+ years of afterlife evidence for lay readers in only 90 pages of large type. I wrote it for you specifically, Nadine, and I have heard from a number of other people who were in your kind of anguish and were comforted by The Fun of Dying and then started on what for all of us is a thrilling voyage of discovery. The Fun of Dying is available everywhere, but since bookstores are so strapped these days the quickest way to get it is on Amazon.com. Simply click on the advertisement tor the book at the top of this page. And if you can't afford a book that Amazon is selling now for $13.45, please contact me through FunofDying.com with your address and I will buy the book myself and send it to you!

I'm sorry, AfterlifeForums.com friends! You know that I try to refer to my own work as little as possible here. And if any of you know of other summaries of the evidence that I can recommend, please let me know that and I will read them and include them here as well! Handbook to the Afterlife is reviewed elsewhere on this site, and it is a good compilation of the evidence; but like nearly every other compilation that I have read, it deliberately avoids taking a stand on what the afterlife evidence means. I am not an afterlife scholar - I don't teach anywhere; I have no reputation to protect - so unlike a scientist, I feel free to tell you that sunlight on your head means that it is daytime and if you're getting wet it must be raining. The fact that mainstream scientists won't look at this evidence, and most academics won't draw conclusions for us, means that millions of people are suffering right now the way that dear Nadine is suffering. I wrote The Fun of Dying because I was weary of watching people suffer this way unnecessarily.

Please read it, Nadine! Then please come back here or contact me privately with your questions. We love you, dear friend - every one of us hugs you!

[Nadine510]

Thank you very much, as i sign off here i am going to go order that from amazon, i will definetly message you when i am through reading it. thank you very much!!! i am so glad i foudn this website, i dont even know how i came accross it, i know i was typing all kinds of stuff in and ended up here. but thank you!

[Roberta Grimes]

Nadine - and everyone - we are told repeatedly by channeled advanced beings that there are no coincidences....

[BarbfromSanAntonio]

Nadine.....I have only read Elizabeth Kublar Ross's book on death and dying....a hard read which goes thru the stages of death, but avoids the death experience. It was written, I think, for those in terminal illnesses. So, when I received Roberta's book for Christmas, not only did I find it easy to read (with the exception of only a few paragraphs on quantum stuff) it helped me visualize what the dying experience is like and assured me of our final resting place ( or places)....I loved it and have read it twice, as well as recommended it to others, both grieving and totally alive.
It isn't a coincidence you found this site....we need you as much as you need us. My best - barb

[Nadine510]

Thank you Barb, i did order the book yesterday so i should receive it sometime next week, i look forward to reading it.
I never thought about this kind of stuff before, even with the loss of my last boyfriend and my grandparents, i loved them all dearly but never really gave a thought about what happened to them (etc), but now this is all i been thinking about since my boyfriend got diagnosed with cancer and it spread and they say it cannot be cured, i am truly devistated right now, and i just want to know what happens next, actually he did mention that soon after he was diagnosed he said where do i go from here..... i stood silent :-(

[Roberta Grimes]

We are given many kinds of gifts in this life. Some of them feel terrible when we receive them, but they turn out to have been gifts all the same. Our perspective from here is totally wrong! We are like preschoolers worried that the morning will end and then we will have to leave and go home. Most of us live as you have, dear Nadine, enjoying school so much that we don't think about what might be next until something like your boyfriend's illness jabs us. As hard as it is for you to see this now, eventually you will realize that his illness is a gift to both of you. Now you and he together will begin an investigation that will so transform your life and his that you will later look back and realize that this is the beginning of your real life.

Human minds are eternal - never beginning and never ending. Human minds are all part of the Mind-energy which is the only thing that is real. If we believe that we are having fun during this preschool morning which is our earth-lifetime, then what awaits us when we each go home is unimaginably far beyond wonderful! When you begin to understand what is really going on - something that neither science nor religion has told you - then you will see your life and his life as stretching to the farthest end of infinity. As some wag said, "If I had known I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself." And your mind is going to live forever, dear friend! Knowing that, you will consider it worthwhile to spend the rest of your life here learning all that you can about practicing perfect love and forgiveness. Knowing the truth about death changes everything!

You and your boyfriend have nothing to fear. You are loved infinitely. You live forever. As A Course in Miracles says, "Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Therein lies the peace of God." Please consider yourself hugged by all of us, dear Nadine, and keep letting us know how you are doing!

[Dianne981]

I know how you feel. At least you have a warning. I did not my husband died suddenly on december 24, 2009. I was in shock I couldn't feel anything for awhile. I woke up that morning getting ready for work and I couldn't figure out why he was not up also. I went to the bedroom to wake him up no response then It hit me Oh my God he is DEAD. I want to scream and swear at the same time. You see on July 9th 2009 I also lost my mother, It is funny I did not lose my mind or jump off the bridge. Griefing is a slow process.

But yes there is life after death, the door does not close is it open. The realtionship does not end with death it continues and the love continues in fact they love you more than they did on earth. I had many experience with my husband after death communications and dreams and leaving signs saying I am still here watching over you and sending my love. I am now able to talk to him . You will not be able to see your boyfriend but he will leave signs even if you ask or don't he will get in contact with you.
It might not be right away, because they have to go through life review. reviewing their live and orientation. But he will contact you. Don't waste your time going to a medium. When He can he will come through. Death does not take away the love we have for each other.

Dianne981

[Roberta Grimes]

Hi Dianne981! We are all so sorry about your losses - to lose two such loved people in a matter of months is horrendous! But it's wonderful to see how you have met your losses and so quickly surmounted them. Are you psychic at all? I am amazed that you have been so receptive to these after-death communications from your husband, when so often people don't even realize that they are happening at all. Will you tell us how you are able to talk with him? I assumed when I first read this that it was thought-communication, but everyone here is eager to hear details. I hope you will be willing to share them!

Thank you for joining us, dear Dianne981! Many people on these forums are grieving, and you are offering them so much comfort!

[PTJPHIL]

Hi,im new here and ive been reading a lot of comments which are really insightful especially from Andrew and Roberta ,but i dont see how advertising a book here on a site which pretty much states that 'love' is everything can be seen as anything but hypocritical.I understand that people have to make a living but i think that $14 is quite a price to ask people...not everyone ,but some, who are obviously in a state where they would give anything for reassurance that theyre loved one is still close and enjoying themself.
I also saw that Roberta quite willingly said she would pay for the book ,but i would like to know how much you actually make out of all this.I also have to say that i believe in an afterlife but to be honest i think we just have to wait and see ,and make the best of it ...do what we can to help each other regardless of what happens when we die.
I really dont want to upset anyone but im just saying what i think.

[VainVessel]

I think you have the wrong impression, I'm pretty sure Roberta is not advertising for her book but only trying to help. When I first came to this forum, she sent me a copy for free since I live in a country where it is not available. I've been here a while now and read through a lot of the archives and I've never seen a post where her intention seemed to be anything other than helping.

[mac]

Hi,im new here and ive been reading a lot of comments which are really insightful especially from Andrew and Roberta ,but i dont see how advertising a book here on a site which pretty much states that 'love' is everything can be seen as anything but hypocritical.I understand that people have to make a living but i think that $14 is quite a price to ask people...not everyone ,but some, who are obviously in a state where they would give anything for reassurance that theyre loved one is still close and enjoying themself.
I also saw that Roberta quite willingly said she would pay for the book ,but i would like to know how much you actually make out of all this.I also have to say that i believe in an afterlife but to be honest i think we just have to wait and see ,and make the best of it ...do what we can to help each other regardless of what happens when we die.
I really dont want to upset anyone but im just saying what i think.

You're not upsetting me by saying what you think and I hope you won't be upset by my responding.

What Roberta charges for her book and how much is profit from that book is totally her business, not yours, not mine, not anybody else's. No-one has to buy it anyway! And while we're on the price, it seems to me pretty typical of books which won't have a large market. You're plain wrong to assert it's hypocritical because Roberta gives of her time here without charge and I expect she might say that she works damned hard as a lawyer to earn her living. Whatever she does or does not do she's not a medium and hence can't bring first-hand evidence for the folk you're talking about in your piece but she can reach out in her book and do whatever she can to help the grieving or those who just want to understand more.

You are, of course, welcome to hold any view you choose concerning the afterlife. If you choose you can do exactly what you say viz: ".... wait and see and make the best of it." But others already choose NOT to do what you say and have developed deep understanding which they try to pass on to help others to understand for themselves. I guess that as a new member you've not actually read much on the various forums so you won't know.

Pity because you might see things differently if you did first read up what we discuss here....

[Roberta Grimes]

Hi,im new here and ive been reading a lot of comments which are really insightful especially from Andrew and Roberta ,but i dont see how advertising a book here on a site which pretty much states that 'love' is everything can be seen as anything but hypocritical.I understand that people have to make a living but i think that $14 is quite a price to ask people...not everyone ,but some, who are obviously in a state where they would give anything for reassurance that theyre loved one is still close and enjoying themself.
I also saw that Roberta quite willingly said she would pay for the book ,but i would like to know how much you actually make out of all this.I also have to say that i believe in an afterlife but to be honest i think we just have to wait and see ,and make the best of it ...do what we can to help each other regardless of what happens when we die.
I really dont want to upset anyone but im just saying what i think.

Golly! Welcome (I think ;-).) If I were making a million dollars a month I'm not sure what difference it should make to you, but since you have asked, here are the facts:

1) I didn't set the price. The publisher did. I have been unhappy about it almost from day one, and when we do a reprint the price will become $9.95.

2) I post an advertisement for my book here for the same reason that your favorite TV show accepts advertising. I PERSONALLY PAY EVERY PENNY OF THE CONSIDERABLE COST OF RUNNING THIS SITE. Indeed, I spend much more just on advertising this site so people will be aware of it and will be able to come here for help than I will ever make from that book! And I will continue to advertise it. All on my own dime.

3) Because I think the book is overpriced, and because I give away so many copies (by now I've probably given away or sold for $5 or less a good part of what is now in print), I have made very little, even though the book has sold (and continues to sell) well. And we will shortly be lowering the Kindle price to 99 cents.

If you are comforted to know that no matter how well The Fun of Dying ever does, it cannot even begin to make up for the cost of maintaining and advertising this website, and if it further comforts you to know that I will never accept funds from anyone else but will continue to pay all this website's costs from my own funds as a joyful gift to you and to all the other extraordinary people who grace this site with their presence every day, then - by all means - be comforted!

[Celera]

I didn't even notice there was a Kindle version. I will have to obtain that at once -- and I would be delighted to pay the difference toward the cost of this site! But since you have said you will not accept it, I'll send a donation somewhere else instead. :)

I've never understood the reasoning that because love is the most important thing, or because someone has a gift or a calling, it is somehow hypocritical to charge for one's services or product. I've heard it many times over the years, especially when congregants resent their minister if he buys his wife something nice. These days the concept seems to fuel the rampant theft of music and video online -- "music should be free" people say. Why? Because they would like to have it for free.

It's not unloving to ask those who can afford to, to pay. It is kind of unloving to resent that some things cost more than you can afford or to assume that people who charge for something have nefarious motives.